Happy New Year HN!

Post by mastazi » Mon, Jan 01, 2024, 4:15 AM UTC

taylorius wrote: post #188

AlbertCory wrote: post #128

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I think sometimes you have to realize that it's OKAY if you're always the one to keep in touch, and no one else seems to make any effort. As long as they're happy to talk when you call, or they show up at the group event when you badger them enough: that's fine. Some people are just not initiators, and it's either you make the effort, or you lose touch with them. You can't insist on reciprocity.

Is it OK? I'm genuinely not sure. I have been considering a new year's resolution not to keep propping up relationship that aren't reciprocated. Are they "not initiators" in all relationships, or just with you? Why do you conclude that it's ok (genuinely interested)?

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Post by turquoisevar » Mon, Jan 01, 2024, 4:49 AM UTC

einpoklum wrote: post #150

artiscode wrote: post #102

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No. I got homesick after a year and a half and moved back. I've been working remotely ever since with no commute, which I find awesome!

Sorry if this is a nosy question, but - I lived in Amsterdam; and needing that long of a commute sounds weird, since public transport is pretty good, and you can bike some of the way. Even farther from the center, where it's cheaper, it should still not be _that_ long... can I ask what was your commute route?