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Tell HN: Sometimes you don't realise how bad something is until you leave

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#221

Reading this caused me to do a 180 in my life, both job and marriage. I changed both within 1 year of reading it. https://www.issendai.com/psychology/sick-systems.html

wow. as someone who is debating resigning tomorrow this really hits close to home. thank you for this.

Re: Tell HN: Sometimes you don't realise how bad something is until you leave

#222
I had severe anxiety issues I hadn't had my entire life, or actually not since the last time I had a terrible boss. They got promoted out, and magically my anxiety went away. I had not made the connection until after they left. I thought they weren't a great manager, but I didn't realize how bad they were until I was no longer under them. I felt directionless under them, they would ask me to spend more time on a project to see if I could accomplish some unlikely goal (my job is very research focused), the criticize me later for taking too long. They regularly made jokes about firing people, etc. They hated their job (being a manager) and it showed. I thought it was kind of funny at first, thought it was part of their personality, but didn't realize it was actually having a severe background effect on my sense of accomplishment in the job.

I was on medication for all this, I think there were other factors, but it was a massive relief when they were gone. I am now on a new team and killing it, later I found out the manager trash talked me behind my back, other people left as a direct result of working with them/under them, and their attitude is carried into other environments and their new role, where its highly unprofessional.

Re: Tell HN: Sometimes you don't realise how bad something is until you leave

#224
Thank you very much for sharing this. It’s what I needed to hear at this stage in my life and career. With the high cost of living, and low opportunity in my home country, a toxic family member has been the last straw. I too considered suicide, but I have now reskilled, and am starting a new chapter overseas. I’m excited for travel again post covid, and looking forward to a new adventure. Thank you for reminding that these things can get better, I really needed to hear it ♥
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