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They literally just made up a random number
I'll source -- http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2015/05/07/childlessness/ 15% of women ages 40-44 in the USA have never given birth, from which we can pull 85% of women ages 40-44 have given birth, as of 2014.
1. I have always hated the notion that having a happy marriage is about filtering through many candidates to find the one perfect partner. Although I do think it's reasonable to try to learn early on what you're looking for, this idea that we should all be dramatically expanding our dating pool to find the perfect person is abominable. Look at a city with a massive population of eligible young people, like say NYC..…
It's a variation of the travellers curse, where the more places you visit the less satisfied you will be with settling in any one place. That happens because you find new, positive qualities in each place, and no place will ever have them all. In fact, over time any place will have proportionally fewer of the positive qualities you've found, and everywhere becomes less appealing the further you travel.
Similarly, I've now been in a relationship with ~6 people, by my late 20s. I don't want to wait until I'm 37 to settle on a life-partner, but I'm sure glad I didn't try to settle in my early 20s.
Each relationship has taught me more about my self and my needs and also given me perspective on what kinds of people are out there and how they work with me. There are some flaws that I might have thought were just part of life and I'd just have to put up with, until I dated other women who didn't have those flaws. Sure no one is perfect, but some flaws are more compatible or more destructive to a relationship than others.
Just my 2cents.