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Physical wedding invitations are still tradition such that people may get offended if they do not get one in the mail.
And people who get offended at things like that are the exact people I wouldn't want at my wedding.
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I think the author is in the UK where I believe cash bars at weddings are more socially acceptable. I've been to a few weddings here in Canada with cash bars. Some people really frown on it, but it's not a big deal to me. Some people just can't afford it.
would not be then better to have smaller wedding with amount of guests one can afford without asking them to pay for food or drinks? it's very odd idea for me to invite me somewhere and then expect i will pay, of course i can give some gift to couple, but expecting hard cash at bar or waiter, sorry but I'm that case i will rather go to normal restaurant of my choice and pass on such wedding
If you're so alcoholic that you can't attend a single meal without being served unlimited alcohol, you should understand that.
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Penny wise and pound foolish... Micro-optimizations are often easier to wrap our heads around, so we tend to want to focus on them. They're also often situations where you can get a clear win rather than a much more imperfect improvement. In development, it's sometimes called bikeshedding. You see it often in financial planning where people would rather cut out their morning latte than focus on investing better. This…
I'm going to take the more pessimistic view. It has little to do with what you can wrap your mind around and is much more correlated with the inconvenience of fixing it. Dropping paper invitations has very little real inconvenience factor, so people do it and tout their environmentalism to receive their karma from their friends that care about that type of signaling. When it comes to making a real sacrifice (e.g. not…
Cash bar is poor form
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would not be then better to have smaller wedding with amount of guests one can afford without asking them to pay for food or drinks? it's very odd idea for me to invite me somewhere and then expect i will pay, of course i can give some gift to couple, but expecting hard cash at bar or waiter, sorry but I'm that case i will rather go to normal restaurant of my choice and pass on such wedding
In some cultures+locations, alcoholism is so rampant and alcohol so expensive that it's unreasonable for the host to pay for it. If you're so alcoholic that you can't attend a single meal without being served unlimited alcohol, you should understand that.
Maybe you can automate your divorce too.
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Sorry... I don't know how to put it into words. There was an immediate pause felt by everyone within earshot, including her. You could tell she was deciding whether the pressure of being in a public social atmosphere was enough to get her to go forever diamond-less. Then the sense of frustration and being offended took over. There was a shriek. There were animated movements. There were at least 7 different facial exp…
That's really sad because he was 98% on the right side of the issue, bullied by jerks in the service of a criminal enterprise (deBeers).
I had a relative that was a jeweler at one point. She's the only person I know who opted out of a diamond engagement ring. "waste of money. there are prettier things that can mean more" Her engagement ring was awesome. I don't know enough about stones to say what it was, but she got compliments frequently.