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Dark web agent spotted bedroom wall clue to rescue girl from abuse
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Re: Dark web agent spotted bedroom wall clue to rescue girl from abuse
#212On the one hand, this is a beautiful (but depressing) story about humans standing up for each other. On the other hand, this is clearly propaganda from the BBC to push police state functionality on the UK population by pre-justifying it. "See what happens? Never mind the part about it taking six years. Let us see everything in your fucking lives, you twats."
Plus a chance to dunk on their biggest competitor for ad revenue and clicks (Facebook)
In what sense are Facebook and the BBC competitors?
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#213Earlier quoted context omitted.
Not surprising to me at all. I’m a straight man and I’ve always dated single mothers, and it always shocked me how bad their ex partners were. Woman are drawn to toxic abusers like men are drawn to OnlyFans models and the real victims are the children. And women can be incredibly blind to what is going on with their child when they’re in a codependent relationship with the abuser.
"women are drawn to toxic abusers" is very, very wrong. It indicates a wish/desire/need to be abused. No, they are not drawn to that. Many abusers know how to look nice and perfect and are great at manipulation. Also, there may just be a lot of bad men in your social peer group. Don't make it sound like it's the womens fault.
It’s called “Hybristophilia” and it’s a well-known phenomenon.
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#214Earlier quoted context omitted.
It's not very wrong unfortunately. Do you remember back in school that the nice, timid guys were friendzoned but the assholes always had girls after them ? There must be some evolutionary justification, but we have to live with that unfortunate reality..
A different explanation that rings true to my experience is that people are drawn to confidence rather than a desire to be abused. Toxic abusers and high school garbage are good at signalling strength despite their poor character and choices.
Sure, that also must be a factor.
But then again remember the incredible amounts of fan mail serial killers and serial rapists get while in prison. (this is taking it to the extreme of course)
It is the same like guys finding toxic sociopaths attractive, against our better judgement.
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#215Earlier quoted context omitted.
There are a lot of women out there drawn to criminals of every kind. The primary demographic of true crime shows are women for a reason, not to mention the letters murderers and such receive. I would be curious to know why this is, and if it happens in other cultures too.
If there were as many women in prison as men you can be sure there would be as many or more men interested in them.
Can I be sure? How? There are plenty of women in prison as-is, although high profile cases are rarer.
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#216Earlier quoted context omitted.
How many of these sex offenders bought this couch and live close to this brick factory in homes built in that time period?
About 0.3% of the adult population is on registries in the US. With 40,000 couch sales, there would be roughly 120 sex offenders would have bought that couch. You can see what I mean about the registries being bloated. Doesn't really narrow things down until you add the brick factory, but then they already had it down to 40 houses. But it's a mistake to even assume the couch was bought by the same house as the offend…
So ~1m people are registered sex offenders? As in, 1m people who were arrested and found guilty of sex offences?
That’s insane.
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#217Earlier quoted context omitted.
95% of cases are settled before reaching jury trial. Usually a plea bargain for criminal cases. Settlement for civil cases. Or dismissal. The other 5% are expensive.
Would peeing in a bush be a criminal charge? I'm not American but I thought there was a difference between misdemeanors and "actual" crimes.
Misdemeanors are actual crimes, yes.
Re: Dark web agent spotted bedroom wall clue to rescue girl from abuse
#218Earlier quoted context omitted.
Not surprising to me at all. I’m a straight man and I’ve always dated single mothers, and it always shocked me how bad their ex partners were. Woman are drawn to toxic abusers like men are drawn to OnlyFans models and the real victims are the children. And women can be incredibly blind to what is going on with their child when they’re in a codependent relationship with the abuser.
I think the point OP is making isn't "it's strange that the mother had such a boyfriend", but rather "it's strange that so much forensic effort was required to suspect the boyfriend when he should have been an obvious first guess".
I mean, there is no official database of “boyfriends”. Even after you identified the girl, and found the mom, how would you figure out if she has a boyfriend, and if so who?
Remember that if you tip them of in any way the abuser might go escape and hide with the girl or even worse decide to get rid of the witness by murdering the girl. So you can’t just do the easy thing and ask the mom nicely.
Re: Dark web agent spotted bedroom wall clue to rescue girl from abuse
#219Earlier quoted context omitted.
There are a lot of women out there drawn to criminals of every kind. The primary demographic of true crime shows are women for a reason, not to mention the letters murderers and such receive. I would be curious to know why this is, and if it happens in other cultures too.
If there were as many women in prison as men you can be sure there would be as many or more men interested in them.
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