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Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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I think this ship has sailed. Services like nord or mullad are described as VPN products yet they are the products people are buying to route traffic into pornhub.

Seeing as Hacker News is ostensibly composed largely of people in-the-know, we could certainly use appropriate terminology unlike the commons.

A lot of people live exclusively on layer 7, which is fine.

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Not sure if mentioned. But add some encryption, and some way to identify bad actors. With the recent executive orders, it might become dangerous to be trans. Yes, it has always been dangerous. But now more like 'the purge' type dangerous with roving gangs with dogs chasing trans people through the country side. I'd think trans people would be in 'hide' mode. Generally, I wonder if anybody not a maga brown shirt, is i…

> But now more like 'the purge' type dangerous with roving gangs with dogs chasing trans people through the country side. Do you honestly believe anything like this is going to happen?

It hopefully won't come to that but things are starting to get pretty scary. It's slowly becoming illegal to be trans. I have friends that moved away from Florida because it's effectively illegal to get hormone therapy for adults. I'm generally perceived as a woman and have weird men hit on me or even follow me home and there are states where I could go to jail if I use the women's room. This hasn't happened yet but some red states are trying to make it illegal for me to wear women's clothing. Most of the trans women I know have been threatened or harassed on public. I live in CA and have had this happen to me multiple times.

I don't think there will be a formal government purge but I'd bet money that we'll see an uptick in random violence directed at us in the next 4 years.

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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All the porn companies have handled this by simply blocking the sites in the states in question, just forcing people to use VPNs. If you ask for ID verification to see NSFW content they know hardly anyone would provide it, and at the same time it opens you up to a lot of liability in handling extremely sensitive PII. The whole thing is just moralistic BS anyway. I'm sure most kids can figure out how to use a VPN bett…

Pedantic, but the word you're looking for is proxy , not VPN. A Virtual Private Network is a private network such as a Local Area Network created virtually on a Wide Area Network such as the internet. Tailscale, SoftEther, or Hamachi for the old boys are examples of VPN implementations. A proxy is a server that accepts and forwards traffic from clients through it, lending its IP address to clients as the traffic orig…

I would disagree.

First, system that forwards traffic behind its own IP address is called proxy if it works on application level, and NAT if it works on IP level. So we have socks proxy, but home router with NAT.

Second, VPN is just a fancy name for an overlay network over WAN. Overlay network is overlay network even if it only contains two nodes - your host and a remote router providing internet access.

I do not have direct experience with these VPN services, but i would guess they work on IP level and not on application level. So they are just ISPs providing service through overlay network (VPN) instead of access network or physical network.

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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post #182

Not sure if mentioned. But add some encryption, and some way to identify bad actors. With the recent executive orders, it might become dangerous to be trans. Yes, it has always been dangerous. But now more like 'the purge' type dangerous with roving gangs with dogs chasing trans people through the country side. I'd think trans people would be in 'hide' mode. Generally, I wonder if anybody not a maga brown shirt, is i…

> But now more like 'the purge' type dangerous with roving gangs with dogs chasing trans people through the country side. Do you honestly believe anything like this is going to happen?

I don't know. Why don't you ask Matthew Sheppard or Brandon Teena?

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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post #182

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> But now more like 'the purge' type dangerous with roving gangs with dogs chasing trans people through the country side. Do you honestly believe anything like this is going to happen?

It hopefully won't come to that but things are starting to get pretty scary. It's slowly becoming illegal to be trans. I have friends that moved away from Florida because it's effectively illegal to get hormone therapy for adults. I'm generally perceived as a woman and have weird men hit on me or even follow me home and there are states where I could go to jail if I use the women's room. This hasn't happened yet but…

Maybe not 'official' purge.

more like nazi brow shirts.

Generally harassing's a population while government officials turn a blind eye.

Good Luck.

Maybe we'll meet on the underground railroad transporting trans to Canada.

Would normally not think it would come to that.

But a lot that would never happen has happened in last 2 days.

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Indeed. It's hard to believe that until relatively recently people thought that sexual attraction was fundamentally based in biology rather than identity.

Sexual attraction is fundamentally based in biology. Trans people are part of biology. It's what happens when you are exposed to cross-sex hormones. Personally, I tend to view (my own) transition as embracing an intersex condition with medical intervention.

The longer I've been involved with the queer community the fuzzier things get. I very much looked and acted like a guy when I was younger but was drawn to lesbians and always seemed to get along with them and they were the only people I felt comfortable talking about women's bodies with. My first 2 hookups after I started transitioning were with cis lesbians. This was before I started hormone therapy. The relationship I was in when I came out was with someone who still identifies as a cishet woman but 3 of her exes have come out as trans women in their 30s. There are so many ways to be attracted to people and strange ways we are drawn to each other. I've noticed that the kinds of people that are casually interested in me has changed with my body but my own conception of what desire is has become so nebulous.

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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As someone who isn't familiar with the norms of this community, the first few posts were somewhat surprising. I mean to say, they were overtly sexual and public. I have many trans friends and gay friends so I'm not saying I've never heard terminology like that, but it was usually in a closed conversation. I wonder if those are spam comments? It would be interesting to hear how you plan to guard against people who wil…

The trans community doesn't want to admit it but they very much identify themselves by their sexuality/orientation which is very weird to outsiders

I think many people in “out groups” identify with that aspect. Like I don’t spend a lot of time thinking about me being human - but if I was abducted by aliens into their society I probably would identify as human a lot more.

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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> no source code? The way that some people on HN so casually demand someone to build something and then completely give it away never ceases to disappoint. Thankfully the fact that this community is growing tells me this is not how most people think.

With the current politics, how do you expect minorities to trust a product with their identity and (sometimes) life, if you can’t inspect what’s being done with your data?

Real question : how do you verify that the source code matches the code of the service you’re using? Is there some service that builds and hosts and you can verify what it builds against the hosted location?

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Sexual attraction is fundamentally based in biology. Trans people are part of biology. It's what happens when you are exposed to cross-sex hormones. Personally, I tend to view (my own) transition as embracing an intersex condition with medical intervention.

But many trans women have no hormonal or surgical interventions at all. Are you implying that cis lesbians are not attracted to them?

Hmm.. I dunno.

Not implicating anything in particular, other than that biology is ridiculously complex. I can only speak from personal experience.

Before I transitioned, I noticed there was a pattern in my life where cis lesbians were interested in me, I've even dated a lesbian cis girl _as a boy_ when I was about 15 or something like that.

Biology is very strange.

I personally use the word "soul" for this kind of stuff. But that's nonsensical in the end.

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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I... am not sure if this is a joke or not. Grindr is not a community or posting tool. It's a hookup app.

That used to be true but Grindr has pivoted and now advertises itself as a 2SLGBTQIA+ community app

Is this a joke (I'm asking in seriousness)? Don't matter how they "advertise themselves", it's a hookup app. There aren't even any features (like forums or public postings) that would be necessary to call themselves a "community app".
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