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I sincerely believe that I am a respectful, reasonably attractive, healthy, financially successful and emotionally mature person. I found dating so hopelessly difficult in America, that I decided to literally learn another language and relocate to another country. I felt like I had no future in America because of that. The difference where I am now is night and day. I have had to decline more dates and advances, whic…
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Every romantic relationship involves attraction between different polarities a masculine and a feminine one. That's just how laws of attraction work in nature, regardless of the animal and we reflect that. Don't be confused though, it has nothing to do with sexual orientations and there's perfectly happy heterosexual couples where the energies are inverted: males are more emotional, nurturing and females are more det…
> Men are still attracted biologically to what will give them the most chances to procreate: young, healthy women. Speak for yourself. I'm gay as hell, and comfortable with the fact my bloodline ends with me.
Large scale analyses of Tinder or OkCupid or any other dataset of female-male interactions will tend to show these patterns.
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Femininity or masculinity are defined by culture, and modern society has lost them on the road of equality. It's quite common with younger people to not have a clear definition of normal femininity and masculinity. After all, everyone can be everything and do everything, so there is no specific difference between the sexes to define the traits, beyond biology. And even biology is questioned in recent years because of…
I mostly agree with this, but it’s missing some details in how many younger people actually behave versus what they believe. A lot of young men and women will claim to not be particularly attracted to femininity or masculinity or believe in traditional views on gender expression while being attracted almost exclusively people who do present traditionally gendered traits. I’ve met so many young men who say they don’t…
And this will continue at least until mass gene editing is commercially available :)
I sincerely believe that I am a respectful, reasonably attractive, healthy, financially successful and emotionally mature person. I found dating so hopelessly difficult in America, that I decided to literally learn another language and relocate to another country. I felt like I had no future in America because of that. The difference where I am now is night and day. I have had to decline more dates and advances, whic…
And did you explain anything about why it is toxic, just a reflexive "it's bad mmmmmkay" and that you left -- but you didn't say what you went looking for, or what you found, and why it's better.
Furthermore there is the "[probably rich] guy in a foreign country" thing, which may skew things further.
Nor did you explain why, despite having a ton of female friends who stayed at your house, you weren't able to turn those into romantic options.
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The article states 60/30% of young people, so the correct interpretation is that older men are "taking" a large share of the young, single women / young women prefer dating older men.
I think this article is somewhat of a relief to myself. It always felt like the majority of women I talked to casually mentioned they are in a relationship before my interest further peaked. At least it's not just thinking it's a coincidence that the majority that I talk to are taken, it's statistical lol.
To use an analogy, hiring managers are allowed to offer you a job even if you already have a job. They're not obligated to wait until you're unemployed.
Is this surprising? My intuition, backed by approximately 0 data, is that there's a 5 to 10 year age gap preference, such that men prefer to be with slightly younger women and women with slightly older men. As a result, young men don't really have a dating pool. Once they hit 30, as long as they're not total wasters, women will take more interest.
it is definitely surprising...a big change in last 5-10 years. Women actually dont prefer a v large age gap--less than men and on the order of 2-3 years. Age def explains some of this statistic but isnt enough to explain it all. This is probably also result of slight harem effect and of people categorising relationships differently (man thinks he is single, woman thinks its monogamous etc).
This seems mathematically impossible to me. The average age gap in a relationship with a woman for a given man should be the same as the average age gap in a relationship with a man for a given woman.
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If you're using "strategies" then you're already not genuine, thus not trustworthy, imo.
Women have plenty of ways of determining whether someone is genuine or not. Some of the things have nothing to do with you whatsoever; this advice is merely about increasing the probabilities (i.e. card-counting in blackjack, if you prefer). A man living in NYC will have a better chance of finding love than a man in San Francisco purely based on the city that they live in - both could be very genuine people. The only…
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I sincerely believe that I am a respectful, reasonably attractive, healthy, financially successful and emotionally mature person. I found dating so hopelessly difficult in America, that I decided to literally learn another language and relocate to another country. I felt like I had no future in America because of that. The difference where I am now is night and day. I have had to decline more dates and advances, whic…
I think you've done many of the right things - perhaps it was just bad luck. Depending on where you live - that could be another factor. Who is your competition? Who are women comparing you against? The other thing to note is - did the things you do for self-improvement actually improve your status, as the women would see it. Status is frequently linked to power (and not necessarily income), but not always.
The other counterintuitive thing is that you want to be capable of evil, but choose to do good. I think a lot of people who are good people miss this point. It is crucial. If you have no capacity to commit evil, then by doing good you are showing no virtue - you are just acting by default. Develop your own dark side, learn to be selfish and then choose not to be (but don't go overboard).
(lots of parallels here in popular stories - Harry Potter / Voldemort, Vampires, Werewolves, etc etc)