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Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Post by gigatexal »

abzug wrote: post #32
gigatexal wrote: post #26

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Dang! That’s tough! How are you coping? You good?

I'll be lying if I tell that I'm good. In 2022 I'll study to become a programmer. Focus on algorithms, data structures, and try to learn math (I'm very math illiterate, I don't know anything beyond basic arithmetic). So at least by this time next year I'll have more knowledge.

That’s so dope. More power to you! It is good to have hobbies outside of tech and programming too. I find when I’m stuck doing something else helps me figure stuff out. And it helps to prevent burnout.

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Post by abzug »

_huayra_ wrote: post #190
abzug wrote: post #63

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It's just something that I enjoy and I can finally try to be good at and who knows, get a job doing it. I already use Emacs for everything since 2003, so...

What field are you in that you use Emacs? I'm always curious what non-IT folks that use some rather IT-specific tools do (not that Emacs is just for coding like gcc, but it's pretty rare to see it jump over the wall).

Attorney but I read a ton of programming-related stuff, know how to use the command-line and used Emacs for a bunch of stuff. It's my shell, rolodex, text editor, calendar, file manager and, being Emacs there's a lot of little functions and stuff that I've built for myself and/or to make things easy.

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Post by ausudhz »

wiz21c wrote: post #147
wyclif wrote: post #29

There was a Category 5 Typhoon in in the Philippines where I am last week. The power was out and there was no electricity, refrigeration, or internet for a week. One of the transformers in my neibourhood blew out and got destroyed, and at 6pm on Christmas Eve they replaced it and we finally had power! I'm a software developer with a wife and two kids and we have a lot to be thankful for. We survided COVID-19 and a Ca…

Totally OT, but what is it like to be inside a Category 5 hurricane ?

Inside you feel nothing, is at the edges the problem

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Post by mym1990 »

abzug wrote: post #207
swat535 wrote: post #195

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I was exactly in your situation 2 years ago (at the start of COVID) and I know what you're going through. I'm not going to tell you to "stay strong" , emotions are a natural thing and should not be suppressed and it's ok to be vulnerable. However, there are a few things that helped me get through the dark times, I am writing them below in the hopes that you may find them useful: 1. Exercise, this is absolutely critic…

Thank you so much for this. I'm already doing some (2, 4, 5) others are planned for 2022 (1, 3, 6). But 7 is brutal. I was going to propose but things changed. Anyway, again: thank you very much. This is very appreciated. Very kind of you.

Just the fact that you are already doing things to bounce back is amazing. All of your experiences would be hard to handle as one offs, but you are an incredibly strong individual for having all 3 happen at the same time. Take it a little bit at a time…I know HN can’t be with you in person, but we are with you in spirit!

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Post by bruceb »

zeusk wrote: post #118
trevorishere wrote: post #114

This Christmas is significantly different for me. Normally it would be filled with friends and family, but not this year. I succeeded in hiking >10 miles yesterday and today, legs willing, I'll be at least spending part of the day in the PacNW forests to keep the depression at bay. JWST was my Christmas present. I'm happy to see we've got final separation and the last view of the telescope. If anything, it's the best…

aren't there snow storms out here in PacNW? do you have a blog where you document your journey through the forests?

Rain, a little snow, but mostly just cold (very cold for here) in the next couple days at least in the Seattle metro area.

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Post by mehdix »

I understand you OP. I'll add a little bit of my story hoping it would comfort you or people in similar situations.

I went through a divorce with a massive emotional rollercoaster which devastated me for a few years. Lost excellent job/research opportunities/offers. Lost contact with family, friends and mates. Got social anxiety, avoided people and felt unprecedentedly alone. Life pushed me off my limits and left me crushed and helpless.

But I survied. Got a deeper appreciation for good things in life. For time, for loved ones, for humans, for I am one. Tried my luck with a new job, joined again some communities recovered some of my old hobbies and good habits. I got to know myself better.

The thing is, it will pass. What helped me was deriving value from within and jogging.

I wish you luck and Merry Christmas!

Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Post by mym1990 »

deepersprout wrote: post #42

I think this whole christmas thing makes a lot of people feel alone and depressed. I hate that. Posts like these make me think this even more. I am alone, and I like it. I can play Warzone and code some stuff I wanted to finish. I can do things I like. I know this may sound stupid, but if you feel alone, don't. There is no reason to. It's just a day like many others. There is really nothing to it. And we don't need "…

Almost every major holiday is hyper commercialized and stresses people being together and buying things for each other, etc… so from that standpoint it definitely exacerbates the feeling of loneliness for some who can’t/don’t participate. But I don’t think telling someone to just “not feel alone” is a viable solution. Loneliness and being alone are different things. Plenty of people love being alone and in their own thing, plenty of people do not love being lonely.

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Post by [deleted] »

Toutouxc wrote: post #58

I'm visiting my parents in a few hours and it's probably going to suck. We've really been drifting apart since they found out I was vaccinated and actually taking Covid seriously. Ugly things were said about me being a dumb sheep brainwashed by uni education etc. Anyway, I'm joining the virtual all-HN hug. Some people have it worse, and if you (the person reading this) are one of those people, I want you to know that…

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Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas

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Post by trentnix »

deepersprout wrote: post #42

I think this whole christmas thing makes a lot of people feel alone and depressed. I hate that. Posts like these make me think this even more. I am alone, and I like it. I can play Warzone and code some stuff I wanted to finish. I can do things I like. I know this may sound stupid, but if you feel alone, don't. There is no reason to. It's just a day like many others. There is really nothing to it. And we don't need "…

> I think this whole christmas thing makes a lot of people feel alone and depressed. I hate that.

My children think “this whole Christmas thing” is the very best day of the year. And there is nothing that brings me more joy than watching them make memories they’ll cherish all of their days - memories like the ones I made when I was a kid. So no, it is not a day like many others. It’s Christmas, and it’s special to me and mine.

I have genuine sadness that you don’t share in the same joy my children experience in the the wonder and joy this Holiday brings. But I find it contemptible that you would diminish the joy others have in Christmas in order to justify your own malcontent.

Other people’s joy is not your problem and not something that needs fixing.

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