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Kudos for sticking to it, I'm not sure I could have done that in your place! I'm always horrified at stories of parents who act this way. "Do it because I say so, I'm infallible as far as you are concerned, if you disobey me I'll hurt you."
> "if you disobey me I'll hurt you." I think the message is slightly different, and worse. I think the message is "If you disobey me, you have hurt me, and I will need to retaliate"
It was also "question."