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Re: I love you, dad

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Post by jspthrowaway2 »

eric_h wrote: post #168
jspthrowaway2 wrote: post #127

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I'm not so sure that he is entirely a good person or worth this level of praise. He spends a lot of time apologizing for Twitter drama that he invents, and it seems like he has the tendency to shoot first and ask questions later. The Yogscast debacle comes to mind. For those that are unaware, Yogscast, one of the biggest promotional engines sending traffic to Minecraft, went to Minecon on their own dime and did an au…

And now, reading this username, I realize I've been trolled... Nevertheless, I believe my points still stand.

You have not been trolled. I, too, laud him for the post, I just don't like Hacker News getting carried away and comparing him to Jesus incarnate. As for the appropriateness of the timing, I was responding to a comment that extrapolated from this blog post to reflect upon him as a person, so it's unfair to tell me "this isn't the time" but not the person I'm responding to.

It's also fairly condescending to assume based on my opinion that I've never experienced pain on Notch's level. Buddy, you have not experienced pain on my level.

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by run4yourlives »

mnicole wrote: post #200
run4yourlives wrote: post #199

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I won't argue the science, since you're likely correct, but taking one substance to counter the effects of another doesn't do anything to address the root cause of the problem. It's no use curing alcoholism only to have it replaced by gambling, drugs or sex. The issue is that the addiction is used as a crutch to avoid dealing with the real problem. Until you deal with that real problem - and some of them are extremel…

Part of why it is so effective is because the perspective changes it induces not only lessens the desire to divulge, but changes the outlook you have on life that is causing you to do it in the first place. It's not a "cure" rather than a means to get people to look at their life differently, which is what motivates them to go an opposite direction. While they can provide a social outlet for support, I don't think th…

Sure, but then you need to take LSD to maintain that state. Once you remove that actor, the person rewires to think the way they did before.

That's my issue.

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by jamesjguthrie »

diego wrote: post #73
jbail wrote: post #6

That gave me chills. I'm constantly impressed by people that have the ability to share their personal life with the world in an honest way that reveals the vulnerabilities we all share as humans. It is so much more refreshing than the opposite, where we pretend our lives are perfect and we never experience moments of doubt or melancholy. It is rare to see someone make a post like this. This is precisely what makes it…

You may be interested in my post from yesterday. http://longposts.com/1990082

Thanks for sharing. Reading other's stories like this helps me a bit - my fiance had a miscarriage in October and I'm still not 100% sure that I've dealt with it properly.

We are lucky as we have a 1 year old son but we really would love more. My sympathies are with you.

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by toadi »

My father was a alcoholic too. I hated him too and haven't seen him for years. Never wanted to have kids becaue I always think I'm not good enough.

Now I have a kid and even I'm doing better then my father I feel bad because I think I could do better. Because I want my own life and take care of him. Don't know if I balance it right....

Anyway your yought can make you strong or break you... You never know...

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by toadi »

mnicole wrote: post #13
speeder wrote: post #7

I am very happy that my parents are married to each other, and my alive grandparents too, and that they don't have issues like this (what my father "abuse" is coca-cola, he rarely drinks, and noone smokes). And I am very sad to see that all other families are crumbling. I am seeking a girlfriend that wants to be a mother, and I am not finding, most of them are self-centered, and come from divorced families, the only…

Coming from a broken home impacts everyone differently, and particularly when you end up raising yourself (and your siblings). The idea that someone doesn't want to be a mother because they're self-centered is very far from the truth. They are more likely to be aware of their vulnerabilities and the fear that they will end up like their parents. Worse, they may have long-term damage (or mental health issues that plag…

I think it's a nurture vs nature question. Maybe it makes you strong and hard person who makes it in life. Life is though if you have setbacks to deal with. If you are golden spooned maybe by the first setback you crumble...

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by jQueryIsAwesome »

shawn-butler wrote: post #190
jQueryIsAwesome wrote: post #175

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You contradict yourself by saying that bad things are a logical result of multiple events and then saying that you "could" have done something different. Our brains are just a bunch of chemicals that form organic materials called neurons that process and share information using electric-chemical reactions called synapses. Meaning that if you are a murderer you are as responsable for killing as the sun for shining (th…

I made no such reductionist argument.

You think chemicals in our brain have something other chemicals don't?

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by hluska »

BigglesZX wrote: post #197
adeaver wrote: post #195

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I second this. My dad died over 20 years ago and I still feel the lose some days. I still sometimes think I see him in a crowd. You never, ever get over it. Just get passed it.

As someone dealing with my parents' shift into their "older years" and wondering about the future, I found myself quite moved by this. Thank you for sharing it.

I agree 100%...

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by mnicole »

run4yourlives wrote: post #202
mnicole wrote: post #200

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Part of why it is so effective is because the perspective changes it induces not only lessens the desire to divulge, but changes the outlook you have on life that is causing you to do it in the first place. It's not a "cure" rather than a means to get people to look at their life differently, which is what motivates them to go an opposite direction. While they can provide a social outlet for support, I don't think th…

Sure, but then you need to take LSD to maintain that state. Once you remove that actor, the person rewires to think the way they did before. That's my issue.

I'm not sure if you're familiar with these types of experiences. The entire point is that it permanently changes your outlook (for the better) after only a few uses, give or take per person. Not to get all stereotypical answer, but Steve Jobs attributes a single trip to the vision he maintained for the rest of his life.

And even if that were the case, what's the difference between taking a dose of LSD every three months and taking an over-the-counter every single day for the rest of your life, particularly when -- as with the recent case with Wellbutrin XL -- the FDA is approving things that do more harm than good because they're literally not doing any research on them?

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Post by illuminate »

alexakarpov wrote: post #64
kristofferR wrote: post #54

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On the other hand - when you strongly discourage something and decide to make doing it wrong/immoral, you also make it very taboo and stigmatized to talk about, which can be incredibly dangerous. This is very obvious with illegal drug use and sex, problems related to them (drug addiction and unwanted pregnancies/STDs) are much higher in places where it is strongly discouraged, stigmatized and hard to talk about. Ther…

Oh, of course. Far too many people don't realize that religion (in general, and in the "Bible belt" case, Christianity in particular) should be completely orthogonal to such concerns as science and education, and truths revealed therein. There's no inherent conflict, of course; but people from both sides are guilty of acting as if there's conflict. Unfortunately for religious people, they have started it first in age…

"people from both sides are guilty of acting as if there's conflict."

Angsty atheists claiming there are no "true" Christians who believe in evolution or who are evolutionary biologists by trade are obnoxious, but more harmless than those who wedge religion into science classes.

Re: I love you, dad

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Post by freyr »

jspthrowaway2 wrote: post #201
eric_h wrote: post #168

Earlier quoted context omitted.

And now, reading this username, I realize I've been trolled... Nevertheless, I believe my points still stand.

You have not been trolled. I, too, laud him for the post, I just don't like Hacker News getting carried away and comparing him to Jesus incarnate. As for the appropriateness of the timing, I was responding to a comment that extrapolated from this blog post to reflect upon him as a person, so it's unfair to tell me "this isn't the time" but not the person I'm responding to. It's also fairly condescending to assume bas…

> Buddy, you have not experienced pain on my level.

Now does that excuse you for seeking out drama in this thread or not? I'm confused.

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