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I'll add: if you need money but don't want to ask for it upfront, you will need to have someone to ask for it individually to each person mid party.
Just having a box to collect it somewhere, or a sign with a qr code, doesn't work nearly as well.
It's annoying to do, but if your party is good people react surprisingly well to this.
I prefer to invite people individually, and create a group chat with those who confirmed. Nothing is more demoralising than 24 hours of people saying they won’t come, in the group chat, right before the event. My flake rate is close to zero, mostly because people personally told me they’ll join. It doesn’t hurt to get the group chat hyped up on the day of the event. The activity is enough to get people excited. I als…
Creating a group chat with everyone invited is a terrible idea because of the snowball effect of the first "Sorry, can't come, but have a good time for me!" message triggering a neverending stream of similar cancellations until sometimes the entire event ends up cancelled on the day of.
People are way less flaky if you invite them 1-on-1 (even if you copy/pasted the invitation message) vs. a group chat.
Found via: https://auren.substack.com/p/top-5-things-to-read-in-novembe... See also: https://x.com/wangzjeff/status/1983914310738047291 And also Nick Gray's 2 hour cocktail party book My personal thoughts on events: (These don't really apply to parties, but they do apply to non-party events) 1. Do intro circles: If it's a 5-25 person event with a handful of people that don't know each other, do an intro circle about…
I'm an extrovert, and my assumption has always been, maybe introverts appreciate this kind of thing because otherwise they won't meet anyone?
But, I've never, in my life, met someone that enjoys this kind of thing, other than the person subjecting everyone to it. So, unless I'm way off base here, why has nobody learned that everyone hates these and that they're useless?
"Couples often flake together. This changes the probability distribution of attendees considerably" It's interesting to consider the full correlation matrix! Groups of friends may tend to flake together too, people who live in the same neighborhood might rely on the same subways or highways... I think this is precisely the same problem as pricing a CDO, so a Gaussian Copula or graphical model is really what you need.…
We tend to calculate "people at percentages", ie: 2 adults, 2 kids, 50% chance of showing up rates as an attendance-load of 1.5 virtual people (for food calculations). Then sometimes you need the "max + min souls" (seats, plates), and account for what we call "the S-factor" if someone brings an unexpected guest, roommate, etc. Lastly: there is a difference between a "party" and a "soirée" (per my college roommate: "y…
I made myself a "food and drinks amount" calculator for weekends/week-long party events a few years back and it was eerily accurate once you take in unexpected plus ones, flake rates, hangovers and other computable-at-scale events into the formula!
Found via: https://auren.substack.com/p/top-5-things-to-read-in-novembe... See also: https://x.com/wangzjeff/status/1983914310738047291 And also Nick Gray's 2 hour cocktail party book My personal thoughts on events: (These don't really apply to parties, but they do apply to non-party events) 1. Do intro circles: If it's a 5-25 person event with a handful of people that don't know each other, do an intro circle about…
> 1. Do intro circles: I'm an extrovert, and my assumption has always been, maybe introverts appreciate this kind of thing because otherwise they won't meet anyone? But, I've never, in my life, met someone that enjoys this kind of thing, other than the person subjecting everyone to it. So, unless I'm way off base here, why has nobody learned that everyone hates these and that they're useless?
At a party they'd probably feel weird, but in any sort of meeting/get together/tour where time allows, I find them useful.
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You've gotta change it from "you're throwing a party" to "we're throwing party". Or just ask them to invite some people man, don't stress.
Yea I have. Still waiting to hear confirmation that anyone they know is coming... but that still only puts us at like 6 people :/
In 15 years of throwing banger parties it was by far and away the most absurdly over the top, yet somehow also the most wholesome, party I've ever thrown. Actually I'm not sure why I haven't done it again now that I think about it. And the ratio of girls to boys + enbies was like, 5:1, absolutely ridiculous.
Anyway you could try it?
Another time I threw a party on Meetup.com and had a bunch of old people show up, who ended up getting turnt the fuck up. I made a lot of good software industries connections that night and it was early in my career so that was very useful as well.
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> I don't hear bumping bass from the neighborhoods on Saturday night like I used to. You obviously just moved neighborhoods :)
https://www.derekthompson.org/p/the-death-of-partying-in-the...
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Cacio e Pepe, carbonara, spaghetti aglio e olio, spaghetti al vongole, white ragù There's a whole world out there! Tomato sauces can be acidic, so not great when drunk. Also tomatoes stain (if it were to come back up) !
Agreed that spaghetti sauce doesn't have to be tomato based. Just olive oil doesn't cut it, though - you need more than that.
Could be the recipe with the highest ratio taste/effort you can find, something that even a drunk student can pull off a 4 in the morning, so they probably just continued their tradition from the university years