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Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by pezezin »

unwind wrote: post #168
kelseydh wrote: post #156

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When I was young I had a weird cognitive bias where I would think that if something tasted curious or different, that it must be good for you in some way. E.g. the odd taste of licorice. Must mean that it was healthy or good right? Turns out licorice really isn't good for you. https://www.heart.org/en/news/2022/10/28/black-licorice-is-a...

How to know that an article about licorice is from the US: they include the "black" qualifier. As if there were any other kind! To me (Swedish) the normal/expected qualifier is "sweet" (yes please) or "salty" (oh yes indeed thank you very much). The concept of "red licorice" [1] is simply ... foreign. :) It's also fun and interesting as a word/food, since it focuses on the texture of a food and re-uses the word, even…

We do have those funny coloured "licorices" in Spain, but anybody with have a brain knows that the real one is black, and the others just happen to share the same shape xD

Having said that, my favourite is that salty stuff you guys have up there in the North.

Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by rypskar »

Chris2048 wrote: post #198
Cthulhu_ wrote: post #179

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There was a post on Reddit (which came from Twitter or whatever) just now about someone who got itchy when eating plums; some food allergies are minor or just unconscious. Others take a while to trigger a response (bowel issues). But since spicy foods hurt and pineapple is tingly and that's normal, I suspect a lot of people with mild food allergies just... don't realise they have an allergy.

tbh, it'd be great if there was just national (any country) testing for allergies.

It would be great if there was accurate tests for allergies. Blood tests shows what you absolute should stay away from, you maybe should be careful with, and what to do more testing with. Then there are different tests to learn more, but in the end they end of with learn to read your body's reaction and stay away from things you react badly to.

And yes, this have made me a picky eater, not because I don't want to try new things but because the setting with trying new things is in most cases not the settings where you want to get the bad reactions

Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by pezezin »

orev wrote: post #108

One aspect of trying something new is also separating the thing itself from the culture who form around it. Sometimes the people around it are not to you’re liking, and it’s easy for that feeling to spill over into your perception, and you miss out on enjoying something you would have liked otherwise. Some examples with strong cultures: wine snobs, country music, and sci-fi nerds. If you don’t see yourself as one of…

I have that situation with anime. Yeah, I know that there are loads of awesome anime, but most anime fans are a bit... intense.

Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by flakeoil »

cardanome wrote: post #199
Chris2048 wrote: post #196

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Strange question: Could you obsess mainly over time management / optimisation and fix all of this?

Kind off. First of all, time management techniques for neurotypical people do NOT work for people with ADHD. This is why an diagnosis is so important. If you don't know that you have ADHD you will constantly try stuff that won't work for you, you will set up yourself for failure and do more harm that good and it will destroy your self esteem. Neurotypical people tend to be importance motivated while ADHD people are i…

> You start the day in a dopamine deficit and need to start with small tasks that gives you quick wins. You can't tackle the important but absolutely boring work head on, you need to do some stimulating activities first to get the ball rolling.

Sounds like just about every human being.

Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by carlosjobim »

zwnow wrote: post #164
carlosjobim wrote: post #113

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I've met several people in my life that are like you, at least from what it sounds like in the description you give. Constantly anger and bitter. Probably for good reason, at least initially. And these people were smart people, hard working, honest. But here's the secret: If you behave like this, then people will only interact with you when they want something from you, leading to an even more bitterness and unfriend…

This advice basically is "be fake and people will eventually like you" which is one of the reasons im constantly pissed off about other people. I respect authenticity and I do not need people in my life preferring a version of me that's not authentic. Im content with being alone a lot, its preferable for me to having a lot of acquaintances. I have a good circle of friends which is enough.

The advice is to embrace positivity and you will change yourself fundamentally. Why is it in your mind dishonest to be nice and friendly, and authentic to be angry and maybe cynic? You can get a lot of stuff done and get your way by being friendly, without being in the slightly dishonest or a pushover. Especially when dealing with strangers such as in business or dealing with "authorities". It's the easiest way to get what you need, because people don't want to help somebody who is not friendly.

As for getting mad at stupid people on the internet, you're only getting mad because you expect them to be better. Accept internally that most people on the internet are deranged freaks, or just don't amount to much and the tension disappears and you don't have to be mad. Would you be angry at a cow for being simple minded?

Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by carlosjobim »

spauldo wrote: post #148
carlosjobim wrote: post #98

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Of course it is mainly from the architecture. When a person who is mentally base sees something which is impressive and beautiful, they are filled with resentment and hate. Even more if it was constructed by people from the past which he thinks he is supposed to be much superior to.

You must be in a very different part of the world than I am. One with grand cathedrals, perhaps. Where I'm from, a church is usually a big box with a brick facade, glass doors, paint over drywall interiors, and fake wood trim. Outside of the decorations, they're much like office buildings. They generally have a small steeple somewhere that holds no bell and only serves to identify the building as a church, because ot…

Everywhere in the world, it's normal for churches and temples to be either the oldest, the largest, or the most beautiful buildings. Or all of those. But of course not always.

Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by dnissley »

No one is proposing a list that is tailored to the HN audience? That people should try to like? Here's a start:

- Ads

- Regulations

- Trump

- The EU

- Social Media

- Musk

- AI

- Venture Capital

- Unions

- Peter Thiel

- China

- Cryptocurrency

- The United States

- Zuck

- Taxes

- Big Tech

- Recommendation Algorithms

- Billionaires

- Google Search

IMO it's a good sign if you can think of something to appreciate in all of these things, even if you can't bring yourself to like them. To appreciate them is to understand them at a deeper level, since it's all too easy to hate things you don't understand.

Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by cardanome »

flakeoil wrote: post #205
cardanome wrote: post #199

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Kind off. First of all, time management techniques for neurotypical people do NOT work for people with ADHD. This is why an diagnosis is so important. If you don't know that you have ADHD you will constantly try stuff that won't work for you, you will set up yourself for failure and do more harm that good and it will destroy your self esteem. Neurotypical people tend to be importance motivated while ADHD people are i…

> You start the day in a dopamine deficit and need to start with small tasks that gives you quick wins. You can't tackle the important but absolutely boring work head on, you need to do some stimulating activities first to get the ball rolling. Sounds like just about every human being.

The difference is that neurotypical people often have a super power that is called not having a executive dysfunction. If they want to do the task, think the task is important and are able to do the task, they can just do the task.

It is hard for me to even imagine that such a thing can exist but it absolutely is the case.

The difference is how strict the "need" it. Like neurotypical people also benefit from working on something they are interested at but for ADHD people it is not optional but necessary to function.

Also neurotypical people get much more dopamine out of even simple tasks while I can have the best conversation ever with someone and still need some fidget toys to not go crazy from sitting around.

Re: Take something you don’t like and try to like it

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Post by Chris2048 »

rypskar wrote: post #202
Chris2048 wrote: post #198

Earlier quoted context omitted.

tbh, it'd be great if there was just national (any country) testing for allergies.

It would be great if there was accurate tests for allergies. Blood tests shows what you absolute should stay away from, you maybe should be careful with, and what to do more testing with. Then there are different tests to learn more, but in the end they end of with learn to read your body's reaction and stay away from things you react badly to. And yes, this have made me a picky eater, not because I don't want to try…

AFAIK skin prick tests are the best for contact allergies, blood tests unlikely to find anything but severe allergies.

and I'm not sure how to find mild food allergies directly, seems to be all food diaries and correlation which feels mostly useless..

There also seems to be a hair test that AFAI can tell is an outright scam.

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