It’s been a relief to find a platform where I can ask questions without the fear of being humiliated Half joking, but I am pretty tired of SO pedantry.
Many of the forums I enjoyed in the past have become heavily burdened by rules, processes, and expectations. They are frequented by people who spend hours every day reading everything and calling out any misstep. Some of them are so overburdened that navigating all of the rules and expectations becomes a skill in itself. A single innocent misstep turns simple questions into lectures about how you’ve violated the rule…
The fundamental problem is that communities/forums (in the general sense, e.g., market squares) don't scale, period. Because moderation and (transmission and error correction of) social mores don't scale.