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Have ‘hobby’ apps become the new social networks?

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Re: Have ‘hobby’ apps become the new social networks?

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Post by __turbobrew__ »

bradlys wrote: post #79
Trasmatta wrote: post #25

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This is the common advice, but it's also resulted in many of these hobby based events being overrun by people who are primarily there looking to find a date. It can be a weird dynamic. My suggestion is get a hobby that you explicitly are interested in, but don't go in with an expectation that you'll find someone, or make that your primary goal. > Chances are you present yourself way better in the real world vs online…

> My suggestion is get a hobby that you explicitly are interested in, but don't go in with an expectation that you'll find someone, or make that your primary goal. The issue here is that you need to have hobbies that are explicitly good for finding partners. For instance, I love riding motorcycles. I am happy to do group oriented aspects of the hobby like track days or group rides, etc. The amount of women in that ac…

What I find interesting is that it seems like the vast majority of hobbies are male dominated, maybe this is not true and a bias of my world view. All sports are male dominated to the point where female only activities are sanctioned, anything around collecting, games (board games and video games), cars/motorsports, woodworking, metalworking.

The only hobbies I know of that are female dominated is Yoga and crafts. All the others are more evenly spilt between the genders (like book clubs, dancing, cooking, gardening). If you are looking to find a romantic partner the majority of people who are into crafts are married.

I don’t know if there is any evidence to support or refute my claims, but that is how I see things.

I do agree with you that if you want to find a romantic partner of the other sex you should optimize your activities. Unless you are gay or a woman you will never meet a romantic partner at the local car meetup or magic the gathering tournament.

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Post by older »

t-3 wrote: post #165
older wrote: post #158

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Is it some kind of secret bunch of people who know this?

The secret bunch who pay attention to Africa. It's not exactly shouted from the rooftops in western countries as public opinion is not quite as favorable towards colonialism and patronage as they were 100+ years ago.

I'm more interested to know how this secret bunch of people links all that to arrest of Telegram's CEO (who is a French citizen) in France. Sounds like a regular conspiracy theory and claims like "we all know..." just give more of the same conspiracy vibe.

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Post by christianqchung »

bradlys wrote: post #189
hooverd wrote: post #180

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Men describing what they think women want physically usually reads like someone describing a Tom of Finland drawing. I agree that people generally prefer a physically fit partner.

Are you really going to say that most women yearn for a man who has a body that looks like Kipchoge?

Probably <1% of American men look like Kipchoge. The average runner is just going to be healthier than the average American, not jacked to the point of uncanniness. This is also true for weightlifters.

Re: Have ‘hobby’ apps become the new social networks?

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Post by fcatalan »

Small Twitch communities do it for me.

I'm quite of an introvert. And all my long term friendships have faded or my friends have moved cities or countries.

But around lockdown I took up miniature painting and started watching a bunch of 50 to 100 viewer channels about the hobby. With those numbers the streamer knows you by name by the second time you show up and you soon bond with others in chat.

This got me in contact with the small local hobby club, but also by the time I could attend an in person nationwide convention my family was astounded: dozens of people they knew nothing about were greeting me, stopping for hugs and chats, giving me stuff from their stands...

I've seen both romantic and business relationships emerge in that environment.

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Post by ianburrell »

gamblor956 wrote: post #190
Der_Einzige wrote: post #119

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Go into most gyms and it’s the opposite phenomenon. Men know that some types of physical activity (weight lifting) actually get them laid and others (I.e running) are the equivalent of what food does to get away from predators. The men who get good at that type of physical activity tend to be treated like the food is.

There are plenty of women who prefer guys with runners' physiques over guys with muscular physiques. There was a dating website now-owned by Match Group that did a study years ago (pre-acquisition) that showed that college-educated women preferred guys with runners' physiques by a lot over guys with weight-lifters' physiques, and women without college degrees preferred muscular men by a lot over skinnier guys. In bot…

It was OkCupid that posted lots of data analysis posts before being acquired.

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Post by Beijinger »

mrkramer wrote: post #178
Beijinger wrote: post #125

"Goodbye Tinder, hello Strava: have ‘hobby’ apps become the new social networks?" I don't know, but has anyone tried using Tinder in the US recently? Just scammers, crazies, wackos and strange people - if you can get a match. Tinder has gotten totally useless, in fact, it has become a marketplace for lemons: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Market_for_Lemons Your chance of finding a decent date would be bigger on a…

I think the most straight forward dating app would be the one for "one night stands" because both people know exactly what they want but then again you would need to demand STD checks for all users perhaps on a monthly basis. This is just my humorous thought experiment idea.

At a time I was thinking with a buddy (and someone from HN) to make an up where you (speak women) can only date me and my friends. For men it would be invitation only.

Supposed name was my name K: kandfriends

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Post by bradlys »

christianqchung wrote: post #203
bradlys wrote: post #189

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Are you really going to say that most women yearn for a man who has a body that looks like Kipchoge?

Probably <1% of American men look like Kipchoge. The average runner is just going to be healthier than the average American, not jacked to the point of uncanniness. This is also true for weightlifters.

My point stands. Someone who is not on steroids and is closer in looks to Sam Sulek than Kipchoge will have more success. There’s enough studies out there on this that I shouldn’t have to even be saying this.

Most women like strong looking men and not flyweights.

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Post by thimabi »

danilor wrote: post #108
nkingsy wrote: post #54

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If you think dating apps skew male…

Off topic: What setup did you use to make this comment so that you used the … character instead of three . characters?

On iOS, you can also long press the period button, then select the ellipsis in the pop up menu for accented characters and diacritics.

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Post by broken-kebab »

moi2388 wrote: post #104
diggan wrote: post #77

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> "Users near you" functionality is sorely needed in online spaces, considering how much interaction has moved online. Funny this got mentioned as France just successfully got that very feature removed from Telegram by arresting the founder and citing that feature as the one being used most for abuse. Bunch of sources about that here: https://ground.news/article/telegram-to-start-moderating-pri...

That might have been cited as the reason, but I think we all know the real reason is that France is fighting against Russian troops in their former African colonies, and Russian troops mainly use Telegram for their communications.

The last part doesn't sound very convincing. Russian mercenaries are not glued to Telegram, and can quickly switch to Signal if needed. I think "we all know" that real reason maybe more related to French gov't being a bit more direct about their wish to have a hand inside popular messengers.
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