Earlier quoted context omitted.
Users should understand how to use their computer. Asking users to comprehend a firewall or a vpn (if using a vpn) is not unreasonable. Coddling users is harmful.
Making secure practices simple (or automatic) for less-technical users is not “coddling”.
"Oh, well, your torrent client decided to automatically use your vpn because it saw one running and somebody decided that was the right behavior because they thought you were dumb."
Users have preferences. Users can read. Let them learn and sort it out. Don't ruin a simple program with tarred assumptions of what is correct for users. Prefer simplicity.
Also don't assume using a vpn is more secure. That is a wrong assumption.