Typo: It's Daniel Kahneman and not David Kahnemann.
How I regained concentration and focus
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#202Earlier quoted context omitted.
You can do this. I do. Known numbers only and whitelist school, doctor, etc. If you really wanted to go further you could have a second number via google voice you only give to those places. Maybe even tie notifications on that to your calendar where you put your kids events.
I just can’t… it might be some counselor’s random cell phone calling me. Plus the kids go to many camps per summer, and many activities during the year, so I’d be constantly updating my phone book even if not for the main issue.
Kids survived perfectly fine in the past without their parents being available 24/7.
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Having a family and responsibilities made this infeasible for me. Most apps on my phone are denied notifications, but people can still text/call me.
Not sure about iOS, but with Android you can create exceptions for selected contacts in the do-not-disturb mode. I've added my family members to that exception list, and leave the phone on do-not-disturb mode 24/7.
This works well for some people, but not universally as noted elsewhere in the thread.
I guess it basically comes down to: how likely is a call from an unknown number to be important for me? It turns out this is wildly different for different lives.
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#204Isn’t it funny how much attention these anti-procrastination posts are getting on essentially a procrastination site?
(Tongue in cheek! I love HN. I just know that I sometimes do abuse it as a procrastination device.)
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#205What I did is tell my boss about my difficulty and now they check in on me twice a day to look at my progress. I hate being micro managed, but really helped me to work on delivering.
I’m not sure if this was sarcasm, but if not … It’s a dystopian nightmare, that you would voluntarily request this.
Lol I hate it but the extra eyes makes me focus.
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#206Earlier quoted context omitted.
You can do this. I do. Known numbers only and whitelist school, doctor, etc. If you really wanted to go further you could have a second number via google voice you only give to those places. Maybe even tie notifications on that to your calendar where you put your kids events.
I just can’t… it might be some counselor’s random cell phone calling me. Plus the kids go to many camps per summer, and many activities during the year, so I’d be constantly updating my phone book even if not for the main issue.
I am also a parent coming on the end of a summer, and whitelisting people who _may_ contact me about my child sounds like a nightmare.
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#207I had a similar problem. My solution is to go offline in the evening- 3 hours before going to sleep.
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#208Earlier quoted context omitted.
I just can’t… it might be some counselor’s random cell phone calling me. Plus the kids go to many camps per summer, and many activities during the year, so I’d be constantly updating my phone book even if not for the main issue.
Kids survived perfectly fine in the past without their parents being available 24/7.
Many summer camps require that you be available to retrieve your kid if e.g. they start showing Covid symptoms. I'd love to drop them off and forget about it, believe me.
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This is a bit crude way to put it, but maybe you're right. At least for me, becoming a father changed my perspective on everything so much that it's almost like I'm not even the same species anymore as I was before having them. Sometimes people without children feel like they're not even proper adults even if they are older and/or more senior at work or whatever.
Spot on, I’m so different now than I was then I disregard anything anyone without kids says. > Sometimes people without children feel like they're not even proper adults I feel like they’re not real adults too.
> I feel like they’re not real adults too.
FWIW, This doesn't sound like a healthy place for you to be.
Childless people giving parenting advice to people with children is on average going to be just as off target as most times where humans try to give advice without any personal lived experience. It doesn't indicate anything else though, prima facie.
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You should find a new partner.
Not necessarily. There is almost always room to have a discussion and to see if there can be compromise acceptable to both sides first. In this case, it may be acceptable to have kids at a later age; in addition, there could be other related concerns not mentioned in the comment (a lot of information is lost when writing about something online), which could make having kids acceptable. Then if it's truly a red line i…
There is no compromise on children. Some people want them, some don't. This is one of the biggest sources of relationship strife and needs compatibility quickly or folks should agree to part and stop wasting time.