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Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by nkrisc »

UweSchmidt wrote: post #167
firefoxd wrote: post #142

Close to two years ago, there was a show HN for a dating app posted here. I signed up, found a couple bugs, reported them, then deleted the app. Couple month later, I got an email saying that I got a match. Downloaded it again, had a very nice conversation, but I was not attracted. I went to the settings, selected 25 miles radius and Black only. The next match I got was not Black, and over a thousand miles. Now we ar…

I propose a paid service with a human operator who suggests matches and sends people on appropriate dates. You get one match, go on the date and report back how it went, and get a new match based on both of your feedback. "That person was a little crazy" -> get someone more boring next time. The date you get sent on is engaging and topical: a dance class or a tennis class or a guided tour in a museum, something that'…

There are service that do this, but I don't imagine they're inexpensive.

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Post by gieoon »

Razengan wrote: post #45

Current dating apps/services are little more than ad platforms; you advertise yourself to the pool of members they claim to reach, and you pay to have your ad shown to more people more often (Tinder's Boost, OKCupid's A-List.) Apparently they actually hinder matches unless both people are paying. Some of those prices are laughably ridiculous, like Tinder's $40 for a 3 hour "boost", with no indication of effectiveness…

Yeah, it's just like real estate, or job seeking market, if you match the seekers and the retailers (in this case both are seekers) too closely, then you don't have repeat customers... But, in the spirit of quality long term transactions and overall increase in reputation and trust, I think it may work out. Business aside, if we're aiming to meaningfully connect people then it serves it's goal.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by gieoon »

dlkf wrote: post #70

Props for building this! The online dating market is a complete mess. It's basically an oligopoly, and has a pretty obvious misalignment of incentives. Novel ideas and competition are sorely needed. As regards all the brilliant psychologists here who are commenting "looks matter to most people!": it's not as though you will find every person you meet on ohmyperson unattractive. The issue is that meeting people you fi…

I don't think that it's only the dating market that is an oligopoly, it seems that most verticals are dominated by a few key players who have managed to create a standardized system for consistent delivery.

In my personal experiences I find myself having unexpectedly interesting conversations with a myriad of people, many who may not stereotypically raise my curiosity. I think looks can be deceiving, and this is an attempt to remove that factor to give a chance to anyone who you would find interesting.

In stating this, it's true that you may lose interest in someone after realizing a lack of physical chemistry, but I think the opposite also holds true where you lose interest in someone who's very attractive because of a lack of compatibility. Maybe the best relationships stem from friendships that develop into deeper understanding and compassion.

I think we're heavily focused purely on appearances, and in doing so neglect the other important features that define our uniqueness

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by gieoon »

duelingjello wrote: post #54

I’ve thought about this a lot. I think it’s important that dating people match based on relative attractiveness, health, energy level, tidiness, age/maturity, mental attitude, goals and standard of living. Also, dating sites should facilitate meeting, not pen-pals or “virtual” phony “relationships.” Perhaps a more palatable way to approach this is to legitimately screen/curate each applicant and rate them honestly so…

This is a very pragmatic/practical approach to dating, where you're not messing around and you're looking for specific qualities/traits to be fulfilled.

The next steps can be to assess the other person's appearance, style, etc. It's kind of like Tinder inverted where analysis comes before photo.

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by gieoon »

WarOnPrivacy wrote: post #194
progval wrote: post #30

Although I'm personally done with dating sites, I'm glad to see someone else had this idea, and actually made it. But please consider not making all data go through Google (analytics (which can be blocked) and firestore (which is required)) and allow logins without Google or Facebook accounts. Sharing browsing data of a dating site with a third-party should be considered a privacy issue.

I get a blank page w/ an empty header. When I allowed google-analytics in UBO, I get a blank page w/ a more populated header and 2 sign-in options. I tried it in IE11 (where broken things go) and I get the You Need Javascipt message on an otherwise blank page. Guessing this page just can't live in a decrapified world.

Sorry page was down briefly

Re: Show HN: Dating Site Without Pictures

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Post by SenorSourdough »

robjan wrote: post #189
UweSchmidt wrote: post #167

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I propose a paid service with a human operator who suggests matches and sends people on appropriate dates. You get one match, go on the date and report back how it went, and get a new match based on both of your feedback. "That person was a little crazy" -> get someone more boring next time. The date you get sent on is engaging and topical: a dance class or a tennis class or a guided tour in a museum, something that'…

We've gone full circle and reinvented the dating agency. If technology fulfils its original promises we would ideally be in a world where people didn't have "too little free time to meet people" and relationships would happen organically again.

Is the problem that we have too little time to meet people?

It strikes me that the problems are more related to increased isolation/individualism, increased distraction, degradation of real-world communities, and increased fear of making unwanted/unexpected advances. People who have free time just aren't choosing to use it in ways that encourage the creation of organic relationships.

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