I didn't have the chance to talk with Dan, but the comments here make me feel like I missed out on a tremendous person.
Sorry for your loss, Tom.
A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away
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Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away
#22what is it with all these young kids dying? wasn't there a post like only a few days ago about a guy losing his cofounder to a car accident. how did he die, if you don't mind me asking?
Suicide.
When people don't mention the reason for a death in an announcement, I've always thought: "Why? Why keep it a secret? They're gone now anyway." I think I've just realized why.
I can't say anything else other than that I'm sorry for all of your losses and I hope you do his dream proud.
Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away
#23Earlier quoted context omitted.
Suicide.
Was there a note or some type of reason? Dan seemed perfectly normal in his conversation.
Suicidal people usually do not exhibit much abnormal behavior for strangers to get the idea. There is little strangers can do, anyway. Even professionals can only help when the person genuinely wants to be helped. This is sad, but this is life.
Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away
#24I am stunned. While I don't know Dan as many of you do in person, I did read his comments. My condolences to his family. I initially thought it was a mishap. The news that He took the exit door by himself is what chokes on my thoughts. Why do the good guys do this to themselves? Why did he go away?
It doesn't make it any better but it's pretty remarkable what some chemicals swirling around in our brains can do to us as humans. A lot of good things, sure, but a lot of distressing, uncharacteristic stuff too.
Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away
#25Earlier quoted context omitted.
No. Nobody suspected anything including me, family, friends, and his girlfriend
Has the police ruled out any possibility of foul play?
Why did several people downvote it? Seems a legitimate question.
I wish people who mod comments down would at least explain why.
Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away
#26what is it with all these young kids dying? wasn't there a post like only a few days ago about a guy losing his cofounder to a car accident. how did he die, if you don't mind me asking?
Suicide.
Depression is an incredibly insidious disease folks, especially because sufferers normally keep it hidden from others.
Some days you can feel completely fine, have amazing connections with people, love your work, be a completely present and loving parent and spouse. And on really bad days, it feels like the sky has completely collapsed on you and that the only logical thing to do is make the world a better place by leaving it. It may sound silly if you don't suffer, especially when you recognize much of it is brain chemistry, but it is very real to the person experiencing it.
If you know someone who suffers from depression and has communicated to you that they have suicidal thoughts from time-to-time, I strongly recommend that you let them know that you are there for them at any moment when things feel really dark. They can call, text you, get you on the computer, whatever. Things can go downhill extremely rapidly, so if you ever get a 9-1-1 from a sufferer, react immediately. Get to them in person if it's possible or get someone who lives close to get to them, don't stop communicating with them until you do.
And don't try to fix the problem, telling them it's all in their mind. Again, it's all very real. Let them talk, just allow them to express themselves in whatever way it comes from them, it might be sadness, anger, rage, pain. Let them know they are safe to communicate anything with you, even the dark thoughts. I hope none of you have to go through this, but if you do, you might be saving the life of a friend, spouse, child, parent, aunt, uncle, someone many people love dearly.
Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away
#27In the words of Jeremy Mims -- Dan really was the heart of our YC Summer 08 batch. He was always quick to smile, share a good laugh, and share sharp insights into all things startup. We will miss him always.
Dan was one of those guys who would light up the room when he came in. He was always very positive and he genuinely cared about others. I definitely agree he was the heart of our YC Summer 08 batch and gave so many of us great advice.
Dan, you were a good friend and will be missed.
Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away
#28Earlier quoted context omitted.
Suicide.
Was there a note or some type of reason? Dan seemed perfectly normal in his conversation.
There doesn't have to be a reason. Sometimes it might just work like an aneurysm. Nothing detectably wrong. It's nobody's fault and there's no narrative for it. The wrong set of things happens inside of you, you were fine, and then you're not.
I've been through this; never as close as Tom to Dan, but close; and that's what helped me make sense of it. Sometimes it's just a sudden illness, and sudden illnesses are tragic but they happen.
Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away
#29I've been futilely reading his recent FriendFeed and Twitter updates for some inkling as to what could have triggered this tragic act.
http://friendfeed.com/danhau http://twitter.com/danhau
Not so much as a smidgen of a hint. His comments seemed consistent up until the last with no hint of despair. No wonder this caught people by surprise. It's flabbergasting.
My condolences to everyone close to Dan. Although I didn't know him personally, he seemed like a terrific guy.
What sad news.
Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away
#30Earlier quoted context omitted.
Suicide.
Depression is an incredibly insidious disease folks, especially because sufferers normally keep it hidden from others. Some days you can feel completely fine, have amazing connections with people, love your work, be a completely present and loving parent and spouse. And on really bad days, it feels like the sky has completely collapsed on you and that the only logical thing to do is make the world a better place by l…
You keep it hidden because for every 1 person who takes your advice and helps you out there are 5 who will write you off as a serious person for the rest of your life.
Edit: I'm not saying this is right/wrong, but there are real consequences to outing oneself as a depressive.