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How to Stop Giving a Fuck What People Think

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Re: How to Stop Giving a Fuck What People Think

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This is bad. The advice given perpetuates the myth you are an individual completely separate from the world outside of it, the very feeling that alienates you from other people and the feeling behind the animosity that we feel towards others. The only way to be at peace with world( and people who live in it) is to realize that you are the world not a part of it.

>> the myth you are an individual completely separate from the world outside Aren't you? You were born alone, you will die alone, nobody can live your life for you, nobody can share the responsibility for your decisions. You are alone. Everyone else is a script. The only thing that matters is whether your actions make you happy without a hangover. Why would you worry about anyone else's judgments? (Sick people, who a…

>> Aren't you?

Yes if you choose to identify yourself with small part of your being called the consciousness.

I don't find that view of self particularly appealing, I prefer to view my ego as part of me as my leg is a part me. You are not the image that you have constructed for yourself shaped by the society you live in. I don't want to identify myself with a tiny portion of thoughts that my mind has, I am not my ego.

Re: How to Stop Giving a Fuck What People Think

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But what about downvotes and hellbans?

Also, it's hard to take this advice seriously, when the title of the article engages in polite self-censorship by partially masking foul language with asterisks.

I think there are two sides of this question.

The first is common decency: don't hurt others unnecessarily, don't be an ass, or you feel guilt.

The other is a matter of shame: worrying about the disapproval of others for something you did.

I want to be more proactive about being good to people around me in ways that matter to them.

I am also trying to do more things which create my "shame" feeling, because as this piece says the feeling is generally unnecessary and irrelevant to the feelings of the people around me. I try to do things I am uncomfortable with, or if the only thing holding me back is some vague sense others might disapprove. Really, most of the time they just don't care.

From that perspective, if you really think it will hurt some of your readers to spell out the words, and you don't have a significant reason to do so, censoring them is perfectly in line with his philosophy.

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