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Why Millennials Can’t Grow Up

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Re: Why Millennials Can’t Grow Up

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Hooray for anecdotal evidence! I even agree with some of it, but there's sweet fuck all to back up any of it.

A highlight for the those of you that couldn't make it through the whole way:

"A generation ago, my college peers and I would buy a pint of ice cream and down a shot of peach schnapps (or two) to process a breakup. Now some college students feel suicidal after the breakup of a four-month relationship."

This shit is publishable?

Re: Why Millennials Can’t Grow Up

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Yay! Another article where the older generation shits on a younger generation. Is it possible - and this is just me talking here - that maybe our generation isn't composed of a bunch of emotional weaklings who can't bear the stress of life, but that you guys fucked it up pretty badly for us? Your self-interested conservative personal responsibility do it yourself policies bankrupted the economy because you were aslee…

Life is hard. Help, you assholes. Are you serious with this statement? This is exactly the attitude that the article and all of the others like it are referring to. Life is hard. Be harder.

Ever wonder why people in third-world countries generally don't grow up to be successful like boomers did? Did you always think it was because they weren't tough enough? Actually, it's because the boomers had an awesome environment to grow up and have a career in. That environment doesn't exist anymore because the economy has tanked. Boomers literally have no idea how good they had it.

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This isn't a story representative of a generation, this is a story about one messed-up 30 year old. I can't think of anyone I know who can't figure out how to do laundry and homework in one day, and I don't think it's because I'm in a circle of particularly self-sufficient Gen-Yers. Honestly, if the Onion were stuck for content they could publish this article word-for-word and I'd gladly believe it was supposed to be…

This therapist alone has seen more than 100: " Her case is becoming the norm for twenty- to thirtysomethings I see in my office as a psychotherapist. I’ve had at least 100 college and grad students like Amy crying on my couch because breaching adulthood is too overwhelming. "

Does this have anything to do with the variance between the "expectations" that were laid out for Millennials & the reality of what actually exists.

If you're brought up to follow all the rules & go to college, work 40 years and then retire & as soon as you get through the first part (follow the rules & graduate) and you can't get a job at Starbucks - life might seem a bit harder than you expected.

Re: Why Millennials Can’t Grow Up

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Yay! Another article where the older generation shits on a younger generation. Is it possible - and this is just me talking here - that maybe our generation isn't composed of a bunch of emotional weaklings who can't bear the stress of life, but that you guys fucked it up pretty badly for us? Your self-interested conservative personal responsibility do it yourself policies bankrupted the economy because you were aslee…

The average parent's age for first child has never been higher, just like the rate of 20-somethings still living with their parents. No matter what the reasons for that are, you can't refute that it's bound to have some interesting consequences on the psychology of the 20-somethings in question.

Average age is only up because women started child bearing later.

About a hundred years ago it was common for men in their very late 20's to have finally built a life of their own and get a bride. A bride who was 16 or so because that meant she still had plenty of child bearing years ahead of her.

What if men just got back to that same state, while women have joined men in this status instead of having the whole teenage pregnancy thing?

Re: Why Millennials Can’t Grow Up

#25

I'm thirty but I do notice many of my coworkers and other folks my age cannot grow up. It's not even just a matter of getting a job. Most of the folks I know are still partying all the time as if they're at a high school kegger. I'm not sure of the exact cause, but I do think people having children later in life (late 30s, early 40s for many people I know) coupled with the fact that most of them are only having one c…

As a guy who has suddenly become closer to 30 than to 20: Man, partying is SO MUCH MORE FUN when you have money than when you're a broke student counting pennies.

So. Much. More. Fun.

The way I see it, there just isn't any valid reason for wanting to "grow up". I have never seen anyone who is happy claim they are a grown up. "Grow up" is something people who are disappointed in life say when they see you having more fun than they are.

Re: Why Millennials Can’t Grow Up

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

This therapist alone has seen more than 100: " Her case is becoming the norm for twenty- to thirtysomethings I see in my office as a psychotherapist. I’ve had at least 100 college and grad students like Amy crying on my couch because breaching adulthood is too overwhelming. "

Does this have anything to do with the variance between the "expectations" that were laid out for Millennials & the reality of what actually exists. If you're brought up to follow all the rules & go to college, work 40 years and then retire & as soon as you get through the first part (follow the rules & graduate) and you can't get a job at Starbucks - life might seem a bit harder than you expected.

It doesn't help that educational standards have been falling and college prices have been rising.

Re: Why Millennials Can’t Grow Up

#27
I'm 21, do not have a college degree, work for 7.50hr, and feel exactly like this with the exception that I have to deal with it on my own because I neither have the time or money to spend on therapy. I've learn to deal with things and keep it moving because no one else is going to lend you a hand unless you have something to give in return; that's how I see it anyways.

Re: Why Millennials Can’t Grow Up

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Maturation cannot occur without independence. The Great Recession has prevented independence for a large number of young people.

I don't buy it. If it was a real recession rather than a chronic shortage in marketable skills, some of these millennials wouldn't have mommies and daddies who could afford to keep them around. My dad grew up in the Depression and somehow managed to support himself from manual labor from the age of 14. Show me an unemployed hipster 20-something willing to do day labor but unable to find any. You can't find one.

Maybe this "Great Recession" is an effect, and not a cause, of the fact that white Americans are increasingly too decadent to work for a fucking living.

Re: Why Millennials Can’t Grow Up

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This isn't a story representative of a generation, this is a story about one messed-up 30 year old. I can't think of anyone I know who can't figure out how to do laundry and homework in one day, and I don't think it's because I'm in a circle of particularly self-sufficient Gen-Yers. Honestly, if the Onion were stuck for content they could publish this article word-for-word and I'd gladly believe it was supposed to be…

If I understood the author correctly, she is a psychotherapist talking about people she sees professionally. So, this could just as easily be a story about how Millennials are much more willing to see a therapist for these sorts of problems than their parents' and grandparents' generations were.

Or maybe it is about people who are 30 and need therapy?

Why generalize an entire generation? ... because, page views.

I'm 32 and I HATE laundry and every single person in my age group that I have met hates it too.

Re: Why Millennials Can’t Grow Up

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Life is hard. Help, you assholes. Are you serious with this statement? This is exactly the attitude that the article and all of the others like it are referring to. Life is hard. Be harder.

Ever wonder why people in third-world countries generally don't grow up to be successful like boomers did? Did you always think it was because they weren't tough enough ? Actually, it's because the boomers had an awesome environment to grow up and have a career in. That environment doesn't exist anymore because the economy has tanked. Boomers literally have no idea how good they had it.

So you are stating that the hardships of a college student in the USA right now even remotely comparable to a poor person trying to get along in a third world county?
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