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Re: I Need Help

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Post by CyberFonic »

michaelrhansen wrote: post #13

I am not a therapist, but if nothing seems to work (pills, medical attention, diet), I would suggest doing something else totally drastic - sell everything you can, take a long deserved break from the digital world and go on an amazing year long adventure. Find some country to volunteer in for a year - could be nature conservation related, assisting the poor, whatever. Don't over think it (but do enough to be safe) a…

YES! How about getting a rescue dog! You'll be responsible for it, that keeps you going from day to day. Those adorable little buggers give back your love many times over.

A friend of mine did that and since he had to walk the dog, met many other people with dogs and in so doing met a lovely girl and they're now happily together with both dogs.

Re: I Need Help

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Post by tylerhwillis »

rauar wrote: post #17
metastrategy wrote: post #12

Quit what you're doing professionally, go out and forge a path elsewhere. Maybe, not in the western world. Go to India, South Pacific, South America. Find a need there, and start filling that need & see what can come about from making a different kind of positive change in a persons life. Maybe, it's digging a well. I don't know, but, what you're doing now doesn't seem like its gratifying for you. If all of that is a…

Changing your life is one thing. leaving behind everyone this guy knows personally and potentially could help sounds like a big mistake... especially with anxiety attacks and severe depression.

+1, an incredibly important point. Feeling detached/disconnected from the world is one cause of depression. Feeling disconnected is a logical outcome of changing everything about your life all at once.

Changing habits/attitudes/etc. is important, but I'd try to do it incrementally - testing to see if these changes improve your experience, while focusing on maintaining and strengthening connections to things that you think make life easier/more enjoyable (could be friends/family or work or hobbies or ...)

[I'm not well versed in psychology, please take this as an idea to start your own research, and not a prescription of activity]

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Post by cstrat »

kirpi wrote: post #5

i would spent sometime in nature. no car, no crowd, no tv nothing but trees, animals, all natural sound. thats my dream.i know what i need.

Yes this is great. I love laying on the grass in a big park. Just breathing and staring at the sky... very relaxing.

If you can't get out to find a park, go watch fish. I find staring at fish in a bowl is an amazing way to relax your mind. I can totally zone out and forget my worries just watching a couple fish swim around a tank.

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Post by jjsz »

Since no one mentioned it and everything else from meditation, exercise and traveling is on here I thought you should know about other drugs like nootropics. They can help out with motivation, and cognitive feelings rather than the standard ones you've been using.

If you get to travel, try going to a cold place where everybody is less happy so you won't get depressed looking at happy people in a tropical island.

Humble down and buy a Huskie and go on an adventure with him for a few weeks...

The love of a dog can cheer anyone up...unless you're a cat person but cats don't like to travel, so buy a dog.

Re: I Need Help

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Post by EvanKelly »

CyberFonic wrote: post #21
michaelrhansen wrote: post #13

I am not a therapist, but if nothing seems to work (pills, medical attention, diet), I would suggest doing something else totally drastic - sell everything you can, take a long deserved break from the digital world and go on an amazing year long adventure. Find some country to volunteer in for a year - could be nature conservation related, assisting the poor, whatever. Don't over think it (but do enough to be safe) a…

YES! How about getting a rescue dog! You'll be responsible for it, that keeps you going from day to day. Those adorable little buggers give back your love many times over. A friend of mine did that and since he had to walk the dog, met many other people with dogs and in so doing met a lovely girl and they're now happily together with both dogs.

This is an excellent idea. Living alone can help create an "echo chamber" (for lack of a better term) for negative emotions. Dogs (especially trained companion dogs) almost never contribute to these negative emotions.

Having someone/something to care for and who depends on you is sometimes a substantial boost to one's psyche.

Re: I Need Help

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Post by _hnwo »

If you need someone to talk to - reply to me and i'll get you my email address.

I'm not a professional or anything like that but i've had some person experience with depression and suicide

Re: I Need Help

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Post by maniacwhat »

michaelrhansen wrote: post #13

I am not a therapist, but if nothing seems to work (pills, medical attention, diet), I would suggest doing something else totally drastic - sell everything you can, take a long deserved break from the digital world and go on an amazing year long adventure. Find some country to volunteer in for a year - could be nature conservation related, assisting the poor, whatever. Don't over think it (but do enough to be safe) a…

I agree with this. Clearly you aren't happy with the life you're currently living, so change it completely. Do something exciting.

You may find it brings a new desire to live when you actually have to work to stay comfortable. There are many options, off the top of my head I would say fly to India with very little money and try to make a living. You have your savings as backup but try not to use them unless you really have to.

I realise it doesn't apply to everyone, so perhaps this isn't the answer, but at least for me excitement is what keeps me going, without it life really is quite boring.

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