There are some good depression meds out there. See a Psychiatrist for more details.
I am depressed and I need someone to talk to
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#23I dont know your storie and I am not going to give you some advice. I think being an entrepreneur is one of the most psycholic stress work that you can choose.
1. Your identity is often bind with your startup. If your startup failed you feel like you failed, even if you might control 3 out of 10 important parameters. Or you are the best at 9 out of 10 but that 1 out of 10 failed.
2. Like other professions like doctor or lawyer we dont have a big group to relate to. No other entrepreneur is the other s alike.
3. Any d*ckhead can start a company and the difference between genius and beeing crazy is thin.
4. Your reward comes very very late. If you are a consultant, you work one hour get paid one hour. Building the next facebook takes time and the sign of your success can take for ever.
5. Failor is more common than you think. We hear about the success stories but guys that tried and failed just silently start working at a company as employee.
6. Success and feedback for an entrepreneur is rare. Being #1 on HN is not something you can be every day. But if you take out the trash or work as truckdriver you can come home, leave your work and feel pretty good about your self and what you have done. Having great plans increases your of personal failor risk a lot.
So what is the solution? I think more about my self as a builder and the projects I do I am aware they might fail, but I focus on me and my methods. Try to fail faster, MVP and all that other stuff Eric talks about in Lean startup.
It is not about me or my startup it is about going out and fish, fish for a successful company and every day learn someting and increase my luck exposure bit by bit.
Re: I am depressed and I need someone to talk to
#24Hey, try mindfulness meditation techniques to get in peace with your mind. There's a great guided meditation service for that called Headspace. http://GetSomeHeadspace.com
For sustainable development of mindfulness I'd also recommend regularly journaling about your feelings though you should discuss it with your therapist first. If you decide to try, there's a good iPhone app called iMoodJournal. You can think you talk to me when you use it because I really put a piece of my soul into it. ;-)
Re: I am depressed and I need someone to talk to
#25Is there anyone in your peer group into startups, at a similar position, that you can collaborate with somehow? Or at least share ideas and experiences? I have found it important to talk to people who share comparable recent experiences and also share immediate future goals. Of course, such a person might be very unusual whereever you are. But perhaps you will find them via this post. Good luck
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#26Have ever triedgoing to gym (or working in phisical work (helping a friend)), and consuming paleotic foods (no pizzas). Also, have a girlfriend. Additionally have some friends or relatives to go out or ask them to come to your home.
Re: girlfriend - I'm not sure this is wise advise. By all means, find a loving relationship, but don't do it just because you are depressed. That will most likely end in disaster - for both of you!
Re: I am depressed and I need someone to talk to
#27This is maybe not what you are looking for but someone else might find this useful. Here are two online tools for handling depressions developed by the Australian Centre for Mental Health Research at the Austraian National University. (I haven't tried them myself) MoodGYM: https://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome E-couch: https://ecouch.anu.edu.au/welcome
If you're in Australia, call lifeline ( 13 11 14 ) or they have a chat service at particular hours - https://www.lifeline.org.au/Get-Help/Online-Services/crisis-...
They are great - I've used Lifeline in the past.
Re: I am depressed and I need someone to talk to
#28Best wishes for getting better. One thing that is rare and so important is that you reach out to talk about it.
I wish you to find good listeners, this is rare.
Re: I am depressed and I need someone to talk to
#29If you can't find anyone to talk to on HN, try posting on http://reddit.com/r/depression . It's a great place to vent and a lot of people there will be happy to Skype or text you.
I came here to write the same, and I'm replying to this comment to draw peoples' eyes to it when scanning the replies (in case it doesn't received enough upvotes to take it near the top) as I think it has a lot of value.
I'm personally fortunate to be in a good position mental health wise, but I know http://reddit.com/r/depression, http://reddit.com/r/bipolar and http://reddit.com/r/bipolarreddit have helped my close (non tech friends) a lot and they cannot recommend them highly enough.
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#30can i suggest Co-Co in one of its many variants. Co-counseling is a peer support therapy process that seems to significant affect for most people. There are wide variety of groups but the two principle groups are re-evaluation co-counseling and international co-counseling. The major difference is that RC co-co is more intense BUT more cult like running out of Seattle whilst ICC is more distributed with no central control. Think Apple vs Linux.
it wont give you a solution today, but if you do the course, you will gain access to significant support tools that you can access on an ongoing basis
personally I would say RC saved my life, albeit i don't do RC anymore and i now do ICC if you want to look at some texts have a look here http://www.co-cornucopia.org.uk/coco/literature.htm but there are plenty of other resources available
best wishes kate