I'm 51 now and I feel like I will never be an adult. Looking around I see a lot of broken people, each in their own peculiar ways. Everyone has some coping mechanisms, triggers, and behaviours rooted in childhood. I don't see it in a bad light, I think it is just humanity.
When do we become adults, really?
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Re: When do we become adults, really?
#22You become adult when your parents die
Re: When do we become adults, really?
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Video games are indeed a child like activity, same way as other child like activities it remains fun forever and has many positives. But hackernews in general gets very triggered whenever you say that spending any less than 100% of your free time playing and thinking about games is childish.
I don’t believe anyone here suggests or hints at the extremes(100%) you are referring to.
Mockery for the “i don’t play games so games are childish” argument is fine tho
Re: When do we become adults, really?
#24Labels like "adult", and "successful" etc are all for other peoples benefit rather than our own. It's all a facade.
I'd probably measure maturity in terms of how one navigates relationships.
When it comes to my partner, being vulnerable, knowing when it's ok to share that I don't feel like an adult, that i'm scared or lack confidence, and when to put on a strong front and say it's all going to be ok, to make her feel safe, is the essence of what I consider to be a "grown ass man".
But we're also planning a trip to the Lego House, Denmark together and we don't have kids. So there's that.
Re: When do we become adults, really?
#25Earlier quoted context omitted.
Video games are bad, but what about board games? Are card games also childish? Sports games? Perhaps we should stop playing games altogather and tell everyone at the Olympic Games to stop being children! Bloody chess players, don't they know how much they look like kids!
you're falling down the slippery slope, my line is specifically at Video Games.
What about playing chess on a computer?
Re: When do we become adults, really?
#26it's a dynamic system where we feel less able to see ourselves as adults each time we gain therapy language to articulate trauma. something is gained with this language, but something is lost too
Re: When do we become adults, really?
#27I don't know, haven't really seen an adult in a long, long time.
Re: When do we become adults, really?
#28reminds me a bit of a kine from scroobius pip. something along the lines of 'we're all just bigger kids raising smaller kids'. Some spiritual lines consider humans to be all around 13 or 14 years old, in the mental plane.
I dont think most people are very far apart from around that age anyway. Depending ofc on how one gets raised you might get to that maturity more or less quickly in life.
(it has nothing to do with skills, eloquance or such things. More to do with how well a person can adapt and respond to stimuli of the nervous system (consciousness), and in my further opinion, how well someone can take and understand the perspective of others. (understanding without judgement).
Re: When do we become adults, really?
#29Earlier quoted context omitted.
Video games are bad, but what about board games? Are card games also childish? Sports games? Perhaps we should stop playing games altogather and tell everyone at the Olympic Games to stop being children! Bloody chess players, don't they know how much they look like kids!
you're falling down the slippery slope, my line is specifically at Video Games.
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Re: When do we become adults, really?
#30I can't access the article so I will respond to only the title. I use a rough threshold of how much responsibilities they can, or, have to endure, and manage to take care of in a good enough way.
By far the best response here so far. But since we don't have clear definition and my threshold may be vastly different than yours, its anyone's guess.