In the end I just ended up writing my prototype in PHP (ironically the language that no one recommended - and most hated) simply because it was so simple to jump right in and get started. More so because PHP ran on the server I used to host my static HTML/CSS files.
My first side project is www.youfm.org and its doing great (150k hits, 40k uniques, hundreds of people spending over 5 hours on the site).
So the most important advice I can give is to just pick a language and dive right in. Don't worry about the right language, don't worry about which is the easiest to learn, or scales the best, or anything like that. Just pick any one and start coding.