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Nobody has a personality anymore: we are products with labels

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Re: Nobody has a personality anymore: we are products with labels

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Post by brogdan »

mouse_ wrote: post #8

> Now they are being taught that their normal personality is a disorder. According to a 2024 survey, 72% of Gen Z girls said that “mental health challenges are an important part of my identity.” Only 27% of Boomer men said the same. Could this be because modern women have far more social expectations placed on them than boomer men did, and are thus struggling generally speaking more than boomer men had to?

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Post by setr »

mouse_ wrote: post #8

> Now they are being taught that their normal personality is a disorder. According to a 2024 survey, 72% of Gen Z girls said that “mental health challenges are an important part of my identity.” Only 27% of Boomer men said the same. Could this be because modern women have far more social expectations placed on them than boomer men did, and are thus struggling generally speaking more than boomer men had to?

I think the question is notable though — there’s having the challenge, and then there’s considering it as part of your identity. Personally I wouldn’t; my various issues are just things I’ve got going on, but I don’t think of myself in those terms. Maybe a cause for parts of my “identity”, but not actually a part of it

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Post by munificent »

Arainach wrote: post #3

There are some interested points hidden in a of projection from the author here. >We can’t talk about character either. There are no generous people anymore, only people-pleasers. There are no men or women who wear their hearts on their sleeves, only the anxiously attached, or the co-dependent. There are no hard workers, only the traumatised, the insecure overachievers, the neurotically ambitious. We even classify pe…

I live in Seattle and have two teenaged kids.

Every sentence of this article resonated very strongly with me and accurately describes much of the culture surrounding me and my family.

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iambateman wrote: post #14

As a child, my dad’s brother fell out of a bunk bed and got a traumatic brain injury that would kill him 15 years later. My dad experienced real trauma but was told to bottle it up. After 30 years, he finally went to counseling and it was transformational for him. By contrast, I had some mean fifth grade classmates who still live in my head in uncomfortable social situations… Did my dad have trauma and need to put a…

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Re: Nobody has a personality anymore: we are products with labels

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Post by satisfice »

stanislavb wrote: post #17

I'd say - everybody has a personality which is not who they really are. The personality is "simply" the response and defence mehanism of the ego of trauma inflicted during the early formatory years during childhood. It's really interesting what an automatic-machine a person is. Unaware that he is acting machanically in most cases. Source - the Enneagram and Gurdjieff.

We all have a personality and it IS who we “really are.” We also all have the ability to construct personalities that misrepresent our inner lives. Doing so creates a certain kind of stress and relieves other kinds of stresses.

Over the course of our childhoods we experiment with personality, and discover the elements that allow us to have stable and satisfying dealings with the world. We may cultivate several different personalities— each of them the real us in some respect.

Of course there are many elements of personality that are autonomic or otherwise habitual. That doesn’t mean personality is somehow not real.

A con artist or an actor can don a fake personality, but all that means is they are telling a kind of systemic lie to the world. This requires a lot of energy to maintain. Your real personality is that which minimizes required energy.

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