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RIP Andre Hedrick: The engineer who kept the PC open

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Re: RIP Andre Hedrick: The engineer who kept the PC open

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Post by yason »

poweratom wrote: post #9

All I can think about is his four young children. The man took his own life, and that's that. But his kid didn't do anything to have deserved a childhood knowing their father committed suicide. Some of the kids may even blame themselves for a big chunk of their lives for what happened. I wish he could have found a way and the courage to live on -- for the sake of his children. A man having committed suicide is sad. B…

But his kid didn't do anything to have deserved a childhood knowing their father committed suicide.

But nobody deserves anything in life, neither good nor bad. What is good? What is bad? We have no promises for anything. Why things happen? For some reason unbeknownst to anyone, he and his closest people chose to participate in such a tragedy. It wasn't him choosing to commit suicide alone nor it wasn't his closest family members choosing to live through an event of suicide but that they all shared a bond that invited them to such a course of life where one of them takes his own life. Nobody knows why but nobody's in it for nothing. There are lessons to be learned and facts to be faced. People have to deal with things and that's why they're living their lives--to deal with things (that are uncomfortable). Some of the people might not make it, some might rise above. There's a course of life for everyone but it depends on how they take it, not what happened.

Re: RIP Andre Hedrick: The engineer who kept the PC open

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Post by saraid216 »

mikeash wrote: post #20
tluyben2 wrote: post #16

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Reply link just appeared; we agree, the moment itself definitely not rational (that's probably why so many people actually change their minds during the fall from the Golden Gate; there is a good documentary about that), however during the years and years of getting to that point there are rational moments. Your friend went to seek help ; that was rational. It does not have to be continues; it's just sad to see how m…

One bit of trouble (of many) is that there's tremendous pressure to act happy even if you're not. People rarely react well when you act the way you feel, if you're feeling like that. People often take it personally. They get upset at you for not being happy. They think they've done something to make you unhappy. They feel at fault, even though they're not. It's easier to put up an act than just be yourself. I think a…

Well, like any other disease, some of us can't afford the time or money to get it diagnosed and treated. We just have to keep going despite it, and ignoring the reality that it's a disease is helpful in this respect.

Re: RIP Andre Hedrick: The engineer who kept the PC open

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Post by jaybill »

tluyben2 wrote: post #15
andyjohnson0 wrote: post #14

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When someone dies in circumstances like this the people near to them are going to be very traumatised. Out of respect for them, you should keep your opinions to yourself. Using words like "unforgivable", "coward", and "duty" in the context of someone you appear not to have known is inappropriate and offensive.

That's your opinion. I don't think other people who are contemplating the same thing are helped by me (or anyone else) keeping things to myself. Edit: changed my wording. I'm Dutch, we don't beat around the bush, but you have a point, I can say it differently. I will use those words for the people I did know. I do think that people should talk more; it is just strange how this happens if you actually HAVE people who…

Being Dutch is not an excuse for saying terrible things about who should and should not have children. People are suffering. Have some respect.

Re: RIP Andre Hedrick: The engineer who kept the PC open

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Post by rehack »

I think I need to alert one thing - particularly on a page like this. If in your settings you have 'showDead' set to on, then you will see a incoherent comment at the bottom of this page from losethos.

Some of you folks might remember a discussion involving Losethos sometime back on HN. I can't find the discussion but here is the article which was discussed: http://qaa.ath.cx/LoseThos.html . In that article, one kind person had taken some effort to understand the reasons behind such incoherent comments.

I am not sure that people who marked the comment as dead, are aware of that discussion. Perhaps we need a policy at HN to handle such situations better.

PS: I got the above link by doing this search 'site:news.ycombinator.com losethos' on google. You can also see some more comments on the same here http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=4189669. But can't find that original discussion

Re: RIP Andre Hedrick: The engineer who kept the PC open

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Post by kruk »

yason wrote: post #21
poweratom wrote: post #9

All I can think about is his four young children. The man took his own life, and that's that. But his kid didn't do anything to have deserved a childhood knowing their father committed suicide. Some of the kids may even blame themselves for a big chunk of their lives for what happened. I wish he could have found a way and the courage to live on -- for the sake of his children. A man having committed suicide is sad. B…

But his kid didn't do anything to have deserved a childhood knowing their father committed suicide. But nobody deserves anything in life, neither good nor bad. What is good? What is bad? We have no promises for anything. Why things happen? For some reason unbeknownst to anyone, he and his closest people chose to participate in such a tragedy. It wasn't him choosing to commit suicide alone nor it wasn't his closest fa…

'For some reason unbeknownst to anyone, he and his closest people chose to participate in such a tragedy. It wasn't him choosing to commit suicide alone'

What do you mean by "his closest people chose to participate in such a tragedy" and "it wasn't him choosing to commit suicide alone"?

Re: RIP Andre Hedrick: The engineer who kept the PC open

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Post by yason »

kruk wrote: post #25
yason wrote: post #21

Earlier quoted context omitted.

But his kid didn't do anything to have deserved a childhood knowing their father committed suicide. But nobody deserves anything in life, neither good nor bad. What is good? What is bad? We have no promises for anything. Why things happen? For some reason unbeknownst to anyone, he and his closest people chose to participate in such a tragedy. It wasn't him choosing to commit suicide alone nor it wasn't his closest fa…

'For some reason unbeknownst to anyone, he and his closest people chose to participate in such a tragedy. It wasn't him choosing to commit suicide alone' What do you mean by "his closest people chose to participate in such a tragedy" and "it wasn't him choosing to commit suicide alone"?

Just that what I wrote.

Do you think they were members of a random family who just happened to witness their husband and father coincidentally decide to commit suicide while still a member of that family? That they all weren't in for that tragedy earlier in time, probably from the beginning? Because if you do, surely and lastly now at least they all are part of it. And that begs the question of not whether it was coming but where it was coming from and who saw it coming. Things like these don't surface from a vacuum.

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