RDS should not have lost data, and if I were a user of it, I'd be annoyed too. At the same time, if you've not spotted by now that EBS (elastic block storage, which powers RDS) is not reliable and not to be trusted, then you have to look at yourself too. EBS is by far the worst product AWS offer, you simply should not use it without a very good reason, and if you do need to use it, you have to assume any given drive…
EBS is fine as long as you're aware of the constraints and plan accordingly.
you have to assume any given drive image will disappear at any moment
Duh! You mean it behaves exactly as documented? That is outrageous.