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I get this is how people meet but I never liked this dynamic. Most relationships end and it can make it weird for everyone else. Wish fewer people comingled their hobbies and dating life like this.
How do you expect people to partner??
My mother kept persisting and I finally caved, just to shut her up. Three kids and nearly 20 years later, we're doing good. She's still gorgeous.
My only advice is:
- Create as many opportunity for chances as you can.
- Get out, attend activity-related events that aren't focused on dating (running or sports clubs, sewing clubs, meetups, whatever). Since they're not focused on dating, everyone's more at ease, their guard is down and everyone's more laid back.
- If you're in your 30s or later, consider long-term compatibility traits. If you are big on being smart with money or being healthy/fit, don't match up with someone who isn't. Chances are, you aren't going to change them. Same goes for the inverse.