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Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by tester756 »

dfxm12 wrote: post #16

Young men "are watching a lot of social media..." Possibly related anecdote: https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/zxsgcq/and...

>Their misogyny is honestly invading my brain to the point that I suspect every man I meet to secretly harbour at least some of their toxic opinions. I don't even want to bother dating anymore.

Seriously? this is some extreme opinion and approach, really out of touch with reality.

This sub is no different from the people described in this post, just the other side of extrema.

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by nebukadnet »

I find this very surprising. The first sentence of the article states that about 60% of men are single, and only about 30% of women. There's about equal men and women, so that would mean that 30% of women are dating each other, or are in relationships with multiple men? That's discounting men dating men. I find that surprising.

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Post by 988747 »

GalenErso wrote: post #11

A man who is financially autonomous, practices basic hygiene and grooming, wears tasteful clothing, and approaches women with respect and manners has nothing to worry about. You don't need to make 6 figures, to be 6 feet tall, to have the body of The Rock or 2004 Brad Pitt's face. Having one interesting hobby is also a huge plus, even if it's as simple as hiking or jogging. You just need to be minimally interesting.…

The problem is, if a man hit all these points there's really no reason for him to form a relationship with a woman. Ideal state for a man is being single and having series of one night stands :) Relationships are for those who have trouble attracting women and once they succeed they want to keep their "prey" forever. /s

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Post by eimrine »

acidtakes1 wrote: post #12
eimrine wrote: post #2

We need to produce less children, so that trend is perfectly good, isn't it? And the younger the woman the better, isn't that an obvious? What about friendship between men, this is your personal choice. I have more than one really close friend and I can not see myself without that kind of relationship.

We do not need to produce less people.

Only if people somehow will learn how to spend less of everything.

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by the_doctah »

tokai wrote: post #15
physicist1337 wrote: post #6

Earlier quoted context omitted.

My intuition tells me that it's probably a result of how young people meet these days. A lot of relationships start from dating apps, where it's kind of expected that men will make a first move and then women can filter through them. It's been shown long ago that most men rate most women as above average (in attractiveness), whereas most women rate most men as below average.

>It's been shown long ago that most men rate most women as above average (in attractiveness), whereas most women rate most men as below average. Is that's from the OkCupid data? While interesting you definitely can't claim that 'it has been shown' if that data is the foundation.

What's your personal "it's been shown" threshold then?

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by metaphor »

runsWphotons wrote: post #13
version_five wrote: post #5

Earlier quoted context omitted.

See the chart linked below (third image, after two of the PIs) https://news.iu.edu/live/news/28109-study-reveals-average-ag... the average age that humans had children throughout the past 250,000 years is 26.9. Furthermore, fathers were consistently older, at 30.7 years on average, than mothers, at 23.2 years on average, but the age gap has shrunk in the past 5,000 years, with the study’s most recent estimates of mat…

And doesnt this say that the average maternal age was 23/patenal 30--not the "average age of first child" which would be lower. The average age of first child for women is now over 30 in the us i think. So the difference is huge. (edit: corrected below)

> The average age of first child for women is now over 30 in the us i think.

Less handwaving, more cites[1].

[1] https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/b.htm#agefb

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by mgsk »

Dalewyn wrote: post #19

The article poses the situation as a problem, and I say "screw that noise" (pun intended) with my anecdote: I'm a man now in my mid-30s, and I cannot god damn wait until I'm old enough to be out of the "marriage market" so everyone stops fucking pestering me about marriage. I find absolutely no appeal in the concept. The legal and social risks of associating with women beyond friendships are simply not worth it. I al…

This has to be copypasta.

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by tppiotrowski »

nebukadnet wrote: post #22

I find this very surprising. The first sentence of the article states that about 60% of men are single, and only about 30% of women. There's about equal men and women, so that would mean that 30% of women are dating each other, or are in relationships with multiple men? That's discounting men dating men. I find that surprising.

The article explains this. They are either dating each other or dating older men.

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by jjgreen »

throwaway22032 wrote: post #3

Is this surprising? My intuition, backed by approximately 0 data, is that there's a 5 to 10 year age gap preference, such that men prefer to be with slightly younger women and women with slightly older men. As a result, young men don't really have a dating pool. Once they hit 30, as long as they're not total wasters, women will take more interest.

Half your age plus seven honey :-)
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