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I can't follow the author. Are they saying that this self talk is actually good for them, or bad? It sounds like he was really kind to themselves, yet the sueounsing text implies these were actually examples of "not loving oneself"
> Self: Hey Chase! Do you like me?
> Chase: I love your life!
> Self: Um
> Chase: Yeah, you’re so lucky. There’s not another life I’d want you to have
> Self: Ok
For me, the topic is too multi-dimensional to boil down to a few paragraphs about having a kind inner voice and recognizing defense/survival mechanisms. The latter actually being more about hating others than myself in my experience. I will add this to the thought stream on the topic however. Being ok with rejection, well more than that, accepting that rejection is a mechanism that guides me out of situations that ar…
For me, the topic is too multi-dimensional to boil down to a few paragraphs about having a kind inner voice and recognizing defense/survival mechanisms. The latter actually being more about hating others than myself in my experience. I will add this to the thought stream on the topic however. Being ok with rejection, well more than that, accepting that rejection is a mechanism that guides me out of situations that ar…
> Being ok with rejection, well more than that, accepting that rejection is a mechanism that guides me out of situations that aren’t right for me I think this an important but incomplete statement. Rejection means that situation wasn't right for you but the question I have to ask myself every time is was it because I wasn't ready or good enough? If I get rejected from a job I really wanted, it would be easy to pat my…
It's a lie people believe to justify loving themselves _more_.
The problem is selfishness (self love) leads to unhappiness, and the lie blinds them to the cause.
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> Being ok with rejection, well more than that, accepting that rejection is a mechanism that guides me out of situations that aren’t right for me I think this an important but incomplete statement. Rejection means that situation wasn't right for you but the question I have to ask myself every time is was it because I wasn't ready or good enough? If I get rejected from a job I really wanted, it would be easy to pat my…
If I may, I feel like this is sort of orthogonal to the point of GP’s comment, which I read as being concerned with rejection for the essence of who you are, rather than rejection for a technical role because you don’t have the right background.
While I think it is important to be volitional in making my choices, sometimes singlemindedness in this regard can blind me to the gifts of things I did not choose. So sometimes self love manifests as making myself available to receive the unexpected, the thing I could not envision for myself that is actually much better for me.
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I don't agree in any way. In fact, it's normal to love others much more than you love yourself. This is easy to understand if you have parents or children.
You love your parents more than you love yourself?
This is a lie I've heard for decades. It's a lie people believe to justify loving themselves _more_. The problem is selfishness (self love) leads to unhappiness, and the lie blinds them to the cause.
I of course won't go around accusing eveyone that's depressed of selfishness or moral failure. But reading about this helped me understand a bit better why I feel so unhappy when I'm surrounded by so many good people.
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> Being ok with rejection, well more than that, accepting that rejection is a mechanism that guides me out of situations that aren’t right for me I think this an important but incomplete statement. Rejection means that situation wasn't right for you but the question I have to ask myself every time is was it because I wasn't ready or good enough? If I get rejected from a job I really wanted, it would be easy to pat my…
If I may, I feel like this is sort of orthogonal to the point of GP’s comment, which I read as being concerned with rejection for the essence of who you are, rather than rejection for a technical role because you don’t have the right background.
Earlier quoted context omitted.
I don't agree in any way. In fact, it's normal to love others much more than you love yourself. This is easy to understand if you have parents or children.
If people loved their parents more than they loved themselves they would never move away.