I like this article a lot. I am just concerned that it doesn’t deal with the number one issue with apologies: the feeling that I’ve done nothing to apologize for. Substitute yourself for “I’ve” if you’ve offended me instead of the other way around. It’s wrong to tell lies designed to manipulate people. An apology should never be a lie. So, someone being asked or expected to apologize must not turn it into an empty ri…
the feeling that I’ve done nothing to apologize for [...] It’s wrong to tell lies designed to manipulate people. Who on earth is suggesting that is a good idea?
The person I was responding to did, by omitting any discussion of this problem from his writing. Don’t play dumb and then gaslight me about what I am reading.
It’s possible I misread it, of course. On the other hand, perhaps you did.