One can certainly suggest survivorship bias in this sort of situation. Another commonality I've found with very-successful people: they work
really hard, but they might not be aware that they're working much harder than others.
Two anecdotes:
1) A pianist in my high school was Eastman or Julliard-bound. One day, I watched her sight-read a new piece. It was beautiful. As someone who struggled mightily sight-reading single-threaded trumpet parts, I asked, "How do you sight-read like that?". The innocent and frank reply: "Oh, I'm just having fun to see what it sounds like."
Sometimes (not always), people can be on another level.
2) The truly outstanding see themselves as normal. I think everyone sees themselves as normal. Freeman Dyson, from [1]: `I asked him whether as a boy he had speculated much about his gift. Had he asked himself why he had this special power? Why he was so bright?
Dyson is almost infallibly a modest and self-effacing man, but tonight his eyes were blank with fatigue, and his answer was uncharacteristic.
“That’s not how the question phrases itself,” he said. “The question is: why is everyone else so stupid?” '
I've never thought that Dyson said this with any malice, simply as an honest reflection of his experience.
For me, if I want to get something done, I have to work really, really hard on it.
[1] https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2010/12/the-dan...