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The more you use Facebook, the worse you feel (2017)

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Re: The more you use Facebook, the worse you feel (2017)

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Post by siquick »

debrice wrote: post #10
01100011 wrote: post #5

I dunno. After moving to the valley and leaving all my friends behind, social media is my one connection to anyone besides my wife. I don't compare myself to people on SM and feel bad. I see my friends and family and generally feel good.

I wonder if being on Facebook reduces your motivation to build new friendships (it does take some work) since it allows you (with little effort) to maintain some form of very limited remote relationship? Maybe without Facebook, we (remote people) would be more motivated to build new local, face to face, and fulfilling friendships?

>> I wonder if being on Facebook reduces your motivation to build new friendships (it does take some work) since it allows you (with little effort) to maintain some form of very limited remote relationship?

As someone who moved away from my home country about 8 years ago and is still in touch with old friends via WhatsApp on an almost daily basis, this (regretfully) definitely rings true.

Re: The more you use Facebook, the worse you feel (2017)

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Post by schiavi »

davnicwil wrote: post #19
schiavi wrote: post #14

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I see your point, but I wonder if that is just the nature of how hyper-aware most people in this community are of the problems. I don't know if that necessarily holds true for the general population. Thanks for the feedback.

Very good point and you might be right, but that said perhaps at least your initial audience is going to skew more towards those who are already informed and have opinions on the matter, so it might be something better for later? That aside, very cool concept and I'll come back and check it out more tomorrow (late here). I find any effort to evolve social media pretty interesting, actually tried (and failed) with an…

Oh, that is a fantastic connection! We should exchange information. If you register I'll have a chance of contacting you or speaking with you on the site. (Spoiler it's mostly me interacting). Best of luck with Box CI, talk soon.

Re: The more you use Facebook, the worse you feel (2017)

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Post by 6gvONxR4sf7o »

01100011 wrote: post #5

I dunno. After moving to the valley and leaving all my friends behind, social media is my one connection to anyone besides my wife. I don't compare myself to people on SM and feel bad. I see my friends and family and generally feel good.

Comparing yourself to others isn't the only potential mechanism here. It might be that you get your social "fix" from facebook and don't make new connections here, feeling worse than you otherwise would have.

Re: The more you use Facebook, the worse you feel (2017)

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Post by mylons »

siquick wrote: post #21
debrice wrote: post #10

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I wonder if being on Facebook reduces your motivation to build new friendships (it does take some work) since it allows you (with little effort) to maintain some form of very limited remote relationship? Maybe without Facebook, we (remote people) would be more motivated to build new local, face to face, and fulfilling friendships?

>> I wonder if being on Facebook reduces your motivation to build new friendships (it does take some work) since it allows you (with little effort) to maintain some form of very limited remote relationship? As someone who moved away from my home country about 8 years ago and is still in touch with old friends via WhatsApp on an almost daily basis, this (regretfully) definitely rings true.

keeping up with old friends is good, but not to the point where it interferes with the now.

Re: The more you use Facebook, the worse you feel (2017)

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Post by ljw1001 »

schiavi wrote: post #9

I have been working in this problem space for the past year or so developing a new kind of social media that I think has some merits. Take away the advertisement model, the public nature of discourse, and replace it with meaningful context-driven one-on-one conversation and I think we might have something. My platform can take any topic and disseminate a discussion to as many one-on-one conversations as people who ar…

no fault of yours, but if this is really successful it will be bought by facebook and drowned like a pillow case full of kittens.

Re: The more you use Facebook, the worse you feel (2017)

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Post by ineedasername »

I think ( or at least for me, this is the case ) that there is a threshold. A certain amount of casual usage doesn't make me feel bad, and in fact can be gratifying-- sharing nice photos with family & friends. But very regular or constant use is bad.

Re: The more you use Facebook, the worse you feel (2017)

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Post by theNJR »

ineedasername wrote: post #28

I think ( or at least for me, this is the case ) that there is a threshold. A certain amount of casual usage doesn't make me feel bad, and in fact can be gratifying-- sharing nice photos with family & friends. But very regular or constant use is bad.

I'd pay $5/month for a private network that is just this. My data is mine, no ads, no tracking. Simple, close friends, no addiction triggers.

Re: The more you use Facebook, the worse you feel (2017)

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Post by ineedasername »

wfbarks wrote: post #26

Does the article establish a causal link?

They draw a causal link when, technically, they have a correlation. Combined with other studies which they cite, they have a compelling argument, but if causality requires something like a double-blind, they don't have it.
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