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The secret reason why your life is boring is you waste time doing useless self-help nonsense misrepresented as a 'game' and posted by the self-promoting SEO consultant who created it.
Sigh. Gotta have a thick skin in this business. Thanks for your comment. I'll pull the reigns back on the self promotion for awhile.
Why does this look like some cheesy "win her back" drama dating advice site with less cheesy graphics? What's the value behind this that it's actually on HN? (not being a prick, but I honestly didn't see it).
It defines the quality of our life I'd say.
I think the middle way is to make a habit of looking at your automatic responses, and occasionally respond in a different way.
I understand that they are proposing it more as a general exercise, but I'm pretty sure that failing to have a conversation with every person who asks me for money on the street isn't actually making my life boring. Also, I can't imagine anyone actually saying the words, “I am determined to make new friends tonight and I bet you are just the kind of people who make good friends.”
There's a fine line between always trying to engage people and being the loud, irritating guy with no social graces. Going to a networking event and failing to network is too far one side of the line; going to a networking event and trying to start conversation with a nails-down-the-blackboard-awful opening line is too far the other.
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Sigh. Gotta have a thick skin in this business. Thanks for your comment. I'll pull the reigns back on the self promotion for awhile.
Try posting some stories of the times where you risked rejection. That might be more interesting.
The secret reason why your life is boring is you waste time doing useless self-help nonsense misrepresented as a 'game' and posted by the self-promoting SEO consultant who created it.
Sigh. Gotta have a thick skin in this business. Thanks for your comment. I'll pull the reigns back on the self promotion for awhile.
I think I was somewhat irked when I realized that these were likely to show up on HN every single day, and when I noticed that you're promoting your own site. (every... single... day.)
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And then it goes on "so ignore your fear and do it anyway", which is terrible advice. Really really terrible. It's like telling you that when you are driving and a warning light appears on the dashboard trying to tell you something, ignore it and push on forwards anyway - wouldn't want to be a weak, boring driver, would you?
An indicator on the dashboard indicates an objective fact: x is not working as it should. In a social context, the vast majority of "waring lights" are not objective reality. They are just a subjective state of mind. And BTW I generally ignore my check engine light. ;)
"Situation X makes me afraid" is a repeatable, testable statement. It's not coming from my consciousness so it is plenty objective enough. You don't feel it, but what difference does that make?
If ignoring it worked, if "just do it" was good advice it would be so obvious, such common advice that such a blog post would not be necessary. If just ignoring fear worked, fear wouldn't have any power over any of us in the first place.
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An indicator on the dashboard indicates an objective fact: x is not working as it should. In a social context, the vast majority of "waring lights" are not objective reality. They are just a subjective state of mind. And BTW I generally ignore my check engine light. ;)
What do you mean 'just' a subjective state of mind? Fear indicates a fact - you have learned a reason to be afraid in situation X. "Situation X makes me afraid" is a repeatable, testable statement. It's not coming from my consciousness so it is plenty objective enough. You don't feel it, but what difference does that make? If ignoring it worked, if "just do it" was good advice it would be so obvious, such common advi…