I wish surfing culture wasn't so hostile. Unfortunately, there are a finite number of breaks and waves each day. So as the number of surfers increases, it amplifies the tension in every lineup. It's like biker culture -- if there were only a handful of roads. The only way I've been able to enjoy surfing is by paying an instructor to help me navigate the lineup and actually catch a wave.
The one thing I noticed mostly is how many people come here and just cannot get waves, while there's tens of kilometres of empty beach within 5 minutes drive.
They could literally go anywhere and get a few waves but they choose here and get nothing (except annoyed).
It either comes down to not knowing any better or thinking they're better than they are... often both.
My advice is to go exploring and find a less crowded spot. You may not need to go to the most popular spot to find waves.