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Maybe we can follow the OP's lead and use technology to automate data collection around this and come up with better solutions.
151st date is the charm. This is a bit like living in NYC for both parties: there is so much volume that you can't get past the first minor disappointment. I think the volume prevents you from focusing on one person to figure out what you want. You might want to focus some kind of algo on the second part of the dating: selection. Don't just go on your gut or how you felt after the date. You need multiple dates to fig…
(previously discussed here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=6773841)
Problem number one, that girl in the opening picture has a ring on her left hand. Perhaps try again with single girls?
Is it unethical to go out with someone that wants out of their marriage? A divorce is costly, takes a lot of time, and the relationship is usually dead long before the papers are finalized. If there's trickery involved, then sure. But it's not quite so clear-cut. Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else…
> Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else before a divorce.
Are you saying that you should continue to live off of the spouse's salary while shopping on the side?
Somewhere out there is a girl spamming the hell out of online dating services, looking for this dude. Let's hope when their bots meet, they're programmed to exchange numbers.
Fact of the matter is that finding potential partners, like finding anyone, is about constantly growing the network of people you interact with. I meet new people nearly every week through various communities I'm part of and organise. Many of them stay that way, just "part of my community", some of them become great friends, and very few become partners. You're unlikely to manage that while working 80 hours a week, going to the bar once or twice a week, and otherwise not being involved in much.
Also, speaking personally... the sort of person who thinks it's fun to spend their time automating personal interaction is not the sort of person I want to date.