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One Road Out of Depression

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Re: One Road Out of Depression

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Post by alexashka »

Cliff notes: guy raised in a family of over-achievers, worked himself to the bone while never taking the time to grow up emotionally, hoping achievement would fill the gap.

It didn't, he had to face that fact and now that he's let go of the false hopes of success fixing his life - he's slowly but surely getting his shit together and is very glad to be doing so.

Perhaps the one thing missing from this article is how common this is - I see it all the time, in all walks of life. You have to address whatever is really bothering you, sooner or later. The more you put it off and try to band-aid it, the harder it will be later on.

A quote that I really liked related to this is - a year from now, you'll wish you had started today.

That resonated with me.

Re: One Road Out of Depression

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Post by pryelluw »

petercooper wrote: post #7

My "road out" was having kids and taking on a lot of responsibility (both family and business). It's worked for 7 years now and I've never felt happier and mentally healthy, even if I am super busy and under a lot of pressure :-) I never thought I'd be the sort of person to thrive on pressure but it turns out I am.

Putting the well-being of others first also helped me. In your case, look at all the people who have benefited. Everyone who has listened to your shows and consumed your content is somehow better in some way. Good job! :)

Re: One Road Out of Depression

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Post by elcct »

yuvadam wrote: post #15
elcct wrote: post #13

Earlier quoted context omitted.

There another simple trick - don't be so serious :-)

It is clear you - or anyone close to you - have never suffered from depression, because these types of comments are actually very pervasive, and extremely unhelpful.

I can tell, you are not a fan of dark humour. Understanding depression has nothing to do with it.

Re: One Road Out of Depression

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Post by agumonkey »

Jtsummers wrote: post #12
petercooper wrote: post #7

My "road out" was having kids and taking on a lot of responsibility (both family and business). It's worked for 7 years now and I've never felt happier and mentally healthy, even if I am super busy and under a lot of pressure :-) I never thought I'd be the sort of person to thrive on pressure but it turns out I am.

I think many people do who don't realize it. There's a balance, certainly, and having a cause that you care about helps a great deal. Pressure from a job that just feels like a grind can leave you feeling stressed and unessential (why do we need yet another widget?!?). Pressure in supporting people you care about (family, friends), a country, a cause (ending hunger, eliminating a disease, etc.), and so on can leave y…

I believe the switch from half excitement born and half imposed-but-accepted pressure from childhood regime toward the adult kind of pressure is hard to feel, understand and accept at first. The universe seems to be about pressures and waves, I wouldn't be surprised if our minds needs it too.

Re: One Road Out of Depression

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Post by imadfy »

elcct wrote: post #25
yuvadam wrote: post #15

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It is clear you - or anyone close to you - have never suffered from depression, because these types of comments are actually very pervasive, and extremely unhelpful.

I can tell, you are not a fan of dark humour. Understanding depression has nothing to do with it.

Stop being a troll. It isn't funny.

Re: One Road Out of Depression

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Post by drzaiusapelord »

My road out, even though its still rocky as my treatments are not perfect, is getting checked for sleep apnea and getting treated for it. I wonder how many depressed people have an undiagnosed sleep disorder. Its incredible what just one or two nights of poor sleep quality can do to a person, let alone years.

Re: One Road Out of Depression

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Post by at-fates-hands »

My "road out" was pretty severe.

I had to move on from my social group who were not healthy (some of my closet friends at the time), I stopped drinking and partying entirely, I started working out, and started to plan out my goals for the next two years.

I completely closed ranks on my life - which was a major decision and started from scratch again. Probably the hardest decision I've ever made. Two years of being clinically depressed and I felt like I needed to jump start my life again.

It wasn't easy, but in the long run it's been well worth it.

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