Likewise. This has been a hell of a year, for better and worse (mostly worse). HN is a reliable place where I can have reasonable conversations about stuff I love doing. It's a shining example of what I wish the internet was.
Happy New Year HN!
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sixth'ed
Seventhed - I've written to HN's email address and received a personal response from Daniel the same day. You could have the greatest, most expensive commercial support contract and it wouldn't get you a Daniel!
Universally true AFAIK. He has never failed to respond to me within minutes. Baffling.
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#193Happy New Year!
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#194One more year and the century is a quarter of the way over.
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#195I used to have friends in uni with whom i could share very nerdy/technical conversations. near graduation we no longer get together sadly. this has taken a toll on me. HN is a place that feels like home, even if I'm usually just lurking around and overhearing conversations. Thanks everyone for sharing!
The best 6 months of my life was studying abroad at a foreign university where I would stay up late with 30 other class mates in a lab solving comp sci course problems and then playing quake over lan til midnight.
Nothing will ever replace that magic time but HN comes close. Thank you guys happy new year HN!
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I think sometimes you have to realize that it's OKAY if you're always the one to keep in touch, and no one else seems to make any effort. As long as they're happy to talk when you call, or they show up at the group event when you badger them enough: that's fine. Some people are just not initiators, and it's either you make the effort, or you lose touch with them. You can't insist on reciprocity.
That's me. I've been my friends' glue to some extent since we moved away from high school. I like to think they appreciate it, as I appreciate when they reach out. Happy New Year all HN!
As the non-glue friend - YES, we do appreciate it, so so much.
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have you checked on the veracity of this type of contact? last time for me it was a good time with an old one; but continuing would be just nostalgic bazinga... anyway i'm surviving and happy new year [+2 days] nerds!!!!!!!11
> the veracity of this type of contact you mean, are they really good friends or not? One is always reassessing that, I guess.
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#198You too TB. I thought I was the only one. :)
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#199Earlier quoted context omitted.
I think sometimes you have to realize that it's OKAY if you're always the one to keep in touch, and no one else seems to make any effort. As long as they're happy to talk when you call, or they show up at the group event when you badger them enough: that's fine. Some people are just not initiators, and it's either you make the effort, or you lose touch with them. You can't insist on reciprocity.
Is it OK? I'm genuinely not sure. I have been considering a new year's resolution not to keep propping up relationship that aren't reciprocated. Are they "not initiators" in all relationships, or just with you? Why do you conclude that it's ok (genuinely interested)?
It's entirely natural that some people become "initiators" as a relationship develops. At the beginning of a relationship, person A will initiate X% of the time, and person B will initiate (100-X)% of the time. Unless X is exactly 50 (unlikely), this means one person will naturally initiate more than the other. And then, over time, the person who initiates less will realize that the other person tends to initiate, and will come to expect it.
Notably, that doesn't mean that the person who initiates less doesn't value your company! (Of course, it also doesn't mean that they do value you, only that the frequency of initiation is not a good proxy for the health of the relationship.)
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#200You too TB. I find it very chill knowing that someone else finds HN as delightful as I do. :)