> The question of what will become of the farm is a very complicated and painful one for Eleanor. They are an academic and a writer, and their family wants them to pursue their passions. Eleanor has no interest in farming themself, but they don’t want to see the farm disappear. They now live in New York State and miss home all the time. The family wants to hold on to the property, if at all possible, so they can live…
It's not a well-written paragraph because it deals with both Eleanor and the family and it's not immediately obvious what "they" is referring to in one or two spots. That said, singular-they is pretty much the best alternative to dealing with a number of issues that copy editors have struggled with for years.
Like "Theya".
Theya is my friend. It's singular, non gendered, and then we can just get rid of every pronoun except "they" and "theya".