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Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by watwut »

koheripbal wrote: post #87
synergy20 wrote: post #65

Block websites will help definitely. another "threat" is when you have a few kids, your daily life is cut into pieces with random and sometimes strong background noises 24x7x365, not much you can do there. personally, that impacts my focus the most and there is no cure, and it usually lasts for about 20 years when kids are finally into colleges. obviously there are many good stuff out of raising kids, and I enjoyed i…

This is why many people with kids want to physically return to the office - fewer distractions.

Among my peer, parents want to work from home. Single childless people want to be in office.

Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by lampshades »

haswell wrote: post #189
lampshades wrote: post #187

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I see. It's really unclear why you're engaging in such a hostile way throughout this thread, but it's really not in the intended spirit of discussion here. Apparently you did continue reading, but in case it wasn't clear, it was an abusive environment, and sharing my personal decision not to be a parent again is just my attempt to share one perspective on what it means to have or not have kids when working through on…

> It's really unclear why you're engaging in such a hostile way throughout this thread

The depression that I previously mentioned.

Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by aszantu »

may sound stupid... I recently started to test around with vitamin B supplements, inspired by some NMN interview, refined Vitamin B seemingly turns back age #inmice. Decided to play around with the real thing first... B3 itself helps me sleep better, Yeast tablets feel like coffee, a full vitamin B complex seems to aleviate focus issues. For the first time in a while I'm able to actually work on something without getting distracted much.

Suffering from some adhd-like symptoms I used to be happy to be distracted. Now I'm even unhappy when a coworker wants something. AND I don't enjoy gaming... which is weird and frustrating because I consider myself addicted to video games.

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Post by Buttons840 »

mtnygard wrote: post #186
Zanneth wrote: post #154

Aaron Swartz wrote a blog post about the news[1] and just how terrible it is for the brain. Reading his post had a major impact on me—since then I have always thought differently about the time I spend online. It’s interesting how people, including myself, try to justify various addictions. How am I supposed to stay informed about important topics without the news? How do I know how to help people in need without kno…

I hadn’t seen that post before. This paragraph hit me as a tragic irony: ‘This seems to be true, but the curious thing is that I’m never involved. The government commits a crime, the New York Times prints it on the front page, the people on the cable chat shows foam at the mouth about it, the government apologizes and commits the crime more subtly. It’s a valuable system — I certainly support the government being mor…

Plus, whatever the news is talking about endlessly this week will most likely be far down the list of important events come next voting seasons (or whatever milestone is important to you).

Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by yoyohello13 »

yao420 wrote: post #157
sanedigital wrote: post #101

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Maybe. Maybe not. But no matter what those other people do, they’ll never ever be able to get more youthful, energetic years with their children and (hopefully) grandchildren. All that money and even Elon can’t buy time. I had kids relatively young for a yuppie male (27) and while that was 100% the “right time” I would have done it earlier if I had known how great they are.

I’m really struggling with this right now. I’m turning 33 next month and really want children. I have endless memories of my dad and grandfathers teaching me amazing lessons and being best/strongest men I have ever been around. I want to fulfill that role that for someone! We didn’t have much money but camping or diy building is something fondly reminisce on and made me who I am. My partner is 25 and is not decided o…

I feel you. It's a really tough place to be.

I'm 32 and my wife is 33, we've been together for 12 years. I started having the itch to have kids when I turned 30, but my wife 100% doesn't want them. Choosing between a life without children or leaving the person I've shared my whole adult life with is intolerable.

All I can say is you're not alone and I wish you the best.

Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by mattgreenrocks »

insightcheck wrote: post #132
mattgreenrocks wrote: post #112

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It's really up to you and depends on what you want your career to look like. Also, be careful of playing games where people are willing to give up more than you are. For me, I don't derive as much meaning from a career as I thought I would, probably because I put too much expectation that it would provide that.

> "For me, I don't derive as much meaning from a career as I thought I would, probably because I put too much expectation that it would provide that." "Designing Your Life" is a book based on a Stanford course on career planning that explored this idea very well. A summary is at [0], and a relevant idea is that focusing on one area of your life is likely not sufficient for a good life. For example, over the course of…

Thank you for your reply. I will try this out soon.

I'm already at the point where I'm uncertain if I want to progress on the career ladder. Advancement in my career at this point mostly means striking out on my own more through product-based businesses.

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Post by pb7 »

lampshades wrote: post #173
haswell wrote: post #144

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Nothing about their advice is specific to the role of parenting itself, but more about perspective on life choices in general. If they were telling you how to be a parent, sure, but there's nothing wrong with trying to learn from each other's experiences. Not having kids may afford some advantages in some circumstances, but in my experience, the decision is often made for reasons that most people don't see, and not j…

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Coincidentally, you are seemingly the least mature person in this discussion right now. Speaks somewhat to your “anyone who doesn’t have kids isn’t an adult yet” comment holding little weight. One would expect a parent to have more empathy, not less, but here we are.

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Post by usefulcat »

yao420 wrote: post #157
sanedigital wrote: post #101

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Maybe. Maybe not. But no matter what those other people do, they’ll never ever be able to get more youthful, energetic years with their children and (hopefully) grandchildren. All that money and even Elon can’t buy time. I had kids relatively young for a yuppie male (27) and while that was 100% the “right time” I would have done it earlier if I had known how great they are.

I’m really struggling with this right now. I’m turning 33 next month and really want children. I have endless memories of my dad and grandfathers teaching me amazing lessons and being best/strongest men I have ever been around. I want to fulfill that role that for someone! We didn’t have much money but camping or diy building is something fondly reminisce on and made me who I am. My partner is 25 and is not decided o…

Let's say you stay together now, and 10 years from now she still doesn't want children (which, for the record, is very much her prerogative). What will you do?

If you don't split up at that point, this difference is likely to become a source of resentment. You may also regret not having split up earlier so that you could meet someone who is a better match for you sooner.

This is the kind of thing that people really need to be on the same page about for the relationship to be viable long-term. Attitudes towards money (how much to spend, save, etc) is another.

Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by planarhobbit »

semidetached wrote: post #111

I stopped watching 24-hour news channels in 1991 when I saw how the Gulf War coverage was turning so many into zombies. By 2010 I had stopped regularly reading a list of news web sites I'd constructed. HN is about the only thing I read regularly online, and I'm getting less regular with that. I watch local news sometimes but only to sneer at the local weatherman who's job here in central Texas could be performed by o…

Hear hear.

To add, I started treating most information outlets, including HN, as endless faucets of propaganda, misinformation AND misdirection. The outrage is, at best, a farcical play of human dramas unfolding on a stage. To take any of this seriously is borderline pathological.

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