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Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by virusduck » Thu, Jun 04, 2020, 6:17 PM UTC

serf wrote: post #80

Closi wrote: post #79

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Counterpoint: Most smalltalk topics actually get people to give an almost pre-rehearsed response. For example if someone asks “What do you do for a living?” I will give the same answer I have given 1000 times. Ill ask them and they will do the same. There is nothing unique here. Each to their own though.

> Counterpoint: Most smalltalk topics actually get people to give an almost pre-rehearsed response. yeah, but you're supposed to then extrapolate on the other persons' pre-rehearsed response in order to escalate the conversation into something that flows without effort. "What do you do for a living?" "Mergers and Acquisitions." "Oh. I have a friend that does nearly the same thing. They told me this anecdote, does tha…

Murders and executions?

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by jnaddef » Thu, Jun 04, 2020, 6:20 PM UTC

Maybe I am not stubborn enough, but my experience after 5 tries is:

- Nobody showed their face to the camera - why not but it seems odd to not be on equal foot

- 1 person was doing ONLY small talk and did not seem interested to discuss a specific topic.

- 4 people saw me and immediately ended the chat

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by astura » Thu, Jun 04, 2020, 6:28 PM UTC

aframe wrote: post #138

erfgh wrote: post #130

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> I gave my daughter (6) my iPad for ten minutes this morning There's your problem. Just don't do that. But if you can't avoid it, disconnect the internet before you do it.

That’s not the problem though is it. I said I accept my lapse, but such easy access into a world of video sharing should have at least cursory controls for children. My lapse isn’t in question, it’s the many other children around the world who will be shoved in front of a device and forgotten about, and how this site does nothing to protect them. We’re in lockdown, myself and my wife work full time and then some. My…

If you don't want your six year old daughter to access video and audio then don't give her a device with access to video and audio - that's entirely your obligation, nobody else's.

(Disabling undesired features is another option)

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by Zobody » Thu, Jun 04, 2020, 6:29 PM UTC

feross wrote: post #2

Hey folks! I built Virus Cafe to help you make a friend in 2 minutes! My goal is to help people stuck indoors because of COVID-19 (or police curfews) to make meaningful connections with strangers. Here's how it works: 1. You are matched with a random partner for a video chat 2. You're given a deep question to discuss. You have 2 minutes! 3. The only rule is: no small talk! Small talk is the worst and I'm on a mission…

One important suggestion I'd like to offer: prevent the site from being closed mid conversation with an alert (like, a confirmation dialog box), as sometimes a simple missclick can rudely end the conversation ;( (I'm sorry monirz)

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by feross » Thu, Jun 04, 2020, 6:40 PM UTC

Zobody wrote: post #194

feross wrote: post #2

Hey folks! I built Virus Cafe to help you make a friend in 2 minutes! My goal is to help people stuck indoors because of COVID-19 (or police curfews) to make meaningful connections with strangers. Here's how it works: 1. You are matched with a random partner for a video chat 2. You're given a deep question to discuss. You have 2 minutes! 3. The only rule is: no small talk! Small talk is the worst and I'm on a mission…

One important suggestion I'd like to offer: prevent the site from being closed mid conversation with an alert (like, a confirmation dialog box), as sometimes a simple missclick can rudely end the conversation ;( (I'm sorry monirz)

Good idea. Will add it!

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by GuB-42 » Thu, Jun 04, 2020, 6:40 PM UTC

TurkishPoptart wrote: post #190

GuB-42 wrote: post #175

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Did you consider these questions? https://www.gwern.net/docs/psychology/okcupid/thebestquestio... These questions are selected as particularly relevant to dating while being innocuous. Even if Virus Cafe is not a dating site but I guess they can still be great conversation starters. They are: Proxy for "Will my date have sex on the first date?" - Do you like the taste of beer? Proxy for "Do my date and I have long-te…

I wonder what spelling and grammar mistakes have to do with religiosity!

Apparently nothing, but there is a correlation.

Here is what the article has to say about it.

If your date answers 'no'—i.e. is okay with bad grammar and spelling—the odds of him or her being at least moderately religious is slightly better than 2:1.

As someone who is not himself a believer, I found it rather heartening that tolerance, even on something trivial like this, correlated with belief in God, although I should've figured out that religious people are okay with small mistakes. Next to intelligent design, what's a couple typos?

It's also nice when two completely independent datasets corroborate each other. Last summer, we analyzed the profile text of half a million user profiles, comparing religion and writing-level. For every one of the faith-based belief systems listed, the people who were the least serious wrote at the highest level.

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by bradlys » Thu, Jun 04, 2020, 6:49 PM UTC

shoes_for_thee wrote: post #177

feross wrote: post #2

Hey folks! I built Virus Cafe to help you make a friend in 2 minutes! My goal is to help people stuck indoors because of COVID-19 (or police curfews) to make meaningful connections with strangers. Here's how it works: 1. You are matched with a random partner for a video chat 2. You're given a deep question to discuss. You have 2 minutes! 3. The only rule is: no small talk! Small talk is the worst and I'm on a mission…

JFC, please don't answer these questions to strangers who almost certainly do not have your interests at heart. What is the biggest lie you've told without getting caught? Holy shit.

I mean - I presume these things are not expected to give 100% honesty. It's a conversation starter.

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by knodi123 » Thu, Jun 04, 2020, 7:18 PM UTC

shoes_for_thee wrote: post #177

feross wrote: post #2

Hey folks! I built Virus Cafe to help you make a friend in 2 minutes! My goal is to help people stuck indoors because of COVID-19 (or police curfews) to make meaningful connections with strangers. Here's how it works: 1. You are matched with a random partner for a video chat 2. You're given a deep question to discuss. You have 2 minutes! 3. The only rule is: no small talk! Small talk is the worst and I'm on a mission…

JFC, please don't answer these questions to strangers who almost certainly do not have your interests at heart. What is the biggest lie you've told without getting caught? Holy shit.

stick to safer topics, like "What's your mother's maiden name?" or "How many 9-digit numbers do you have memorized, and what are they?"

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by scollet » Thu, Jun 04, 2020, 7:36 PM UTC

nicc wrote: post #3

Gives out pretty negative feelings to me. A sad emojii with a face mask is pretty depressing, and even worse if you see the mask as political. Black lives matter is destroying cities across the USA. I'm sure it's just me, but I wonder if anyone else sees this?

If you are being genuine, I would ask you to reconsider your viewpoints.

Talk to a BLM leader and learn about racial targeting in law enforcement.

When a few LEOs are malicious, then there is no reason to implicitly trust any LEO.

Donald Trump has led his administration with a playbook of blatant lies and propaganda.

Antifa stands for anti-fascist. Why would you be pro-fascist?

Re: Show HN: Virus Cafe – Make a friend in 2 minutes

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Post by aframe » Thu, Jun 04, 2020, 8:27 PM UTC

AnyTimeTraveler wrote: post #182

aframe wrote: post #166

Earlier quoted context omitted.

To confirm, it’s not allowed by default, it’s set to always ask by default - which was just a case of clicking allow or not. And it most certainly wasn’t in my history. I’d never heard of it before and it’s my work iPad which she doesn’t know the passcode to. No, parenting is hard, especially so right now. Every day is a mix of work, and guilt that the kid of a full time working family isn’t getting everything she ne…

If a child isn't old enough to comprehend and deal with most of the internet, then they should not have access to it or only with someone to teach them. In my opinion, the web is a tool and should be learned like a powersaw or a drill. I would just be annoyed if I had to answer 127 * 4 on my phone and would leave the site, because it is a ergonomic hurdle to something that I'm just mildly curious about.

As a parent (there are a lot of them, but I only speak for myself), I'd much rather someone be annoyed and not try something because a trivial question gets in the way, than a child getting put in front of a predator so easily. EDIT: Potentially.