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2 minute rule. Only useful productivity tool I learn from reading dozens of books a decade ago. https://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/how-stop-proc...
Your parent is not your enemy. Your teacher is not your enemy. Your boss is not your enemy. The other team at work is not your enemy. The corporation is not your enemy. The other political party is not your enemy. Or, more accurately, YOU are not THEIR enemy. At best, you're an NPC in their game. Many of them probably even want to help you, because you are another person in the world, and that feels good.
I take back what I said about this being basic. The first steps (learning your parent, teacher, boss are on your side) is pretty basic. But applying this concept to more complex systems, like corporations and communities, can be pretty advanced. But at the end of the day, what it means is that, most of the time there isn't a conspiracy against you, there are simply incentives that you don't understand.
A leading question attempts to get the listener to agree or disagree with a premise you feed to them.
An interrogative-led question often begins with the words: who; where; what; when; why.
Imagine the responses to these two questions:
- "Did you like the movie?" (Leading)
- "What did you think about the movie?" (Interrogative-led)
How do each of these questions make you feel? How comfortable would you be saying something you think would displease the asker in each case. What kind of responses are possible/likely in each case?
Of course, you can always be talking to someone who's not interested in talking. It's possible to answer either question with a word or two. So there's some assumption of willingness to participate. Even so, you can still sometimes use carefully-chosen interrogative-led questions to find reasons for the disinterest.
Asking good interrogative-led questions is essential for above-average results in many pursuits: science; engineering; interviewing; and negotiation; to name a few. It can also be an important way to de-escalate tense situations. I've found it especially useful when talking to subject matter experts when trying to learn something about areas I know little.
Here's an actionable way to apply the idea. The next time you find yourself asking a question that doesn't begin with {who, where, what, when, why}, stop yourself and rephrase it to begin with one of those words. What differences do you notice in how the conversation goes compared to similar conversations you've had in the past?
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I think the point is that enlightenment doesn't change what you do, only how you do (and/or perceive) it.
Is that the point? Or is it that enlightenment is grounded in the every day. That monks and Buddhist masters can simply sit and do basic chores and that's it, enlightenment is grounded next to the most basic human needs of fire and water and food.
"Before Enlightenment chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment chop wood, carry water".
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then it is not a mountain,
then the mountain is a mountain.
As expressed here by Paul Graham https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=6813226 and enforced with blind loyalty by Daniel Gackle who repeatedly refuses to delete my stuff instead spending his nights examining and debating the minute details of my words deciding which should or should not be deleted.
If this misguided idea never existed, HN would be like all normal web services, the user would have a delete button and my life would be better.
But, the idea and the power position it allows are here, and my life is changed for the worse.
Intermittent fasting. These days I only have one meal a day
I had a month off work recently (unrelated to the pandemic), which I spent learning programming. During this time I never ate lunch, only a small breakfast and a normal supper. But now that I'm back at work and I'm on my feet all day, I have to eat, otherwise I get super hungry, lightheaded and generally lethargic. But I've discovered that I don't have to eat very much before I'm back to normal.
Solipsism is correct.