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Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by dvtrn »

saagarjha wrote: post #106
klipt wrote: post #86

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Ironic that people don't want to meet someone off an app without "sniff test" conversation first, yet are happy to meet strangers at a bar with no prior knowledge of them whatsoever. I guess it's just a lingering bias that makes us think "dating app people are creepy" even though today the people you meet in a bar are probably all on dating apps too.

You can avoid people you don’t like at bars. You really can’t do that if you’ve scheduled a date with someone.

Sure you can. It’s called “ghosting”.

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Post by _exnk »

phantom784 wrote: post #124
_exnk wrote: post #96

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Purely a thought experiment here: what do you think would happen if rather than making "ugly people" free to message, you incentivized the message? Pay $1 per message to a hot person, get paid $1 per message to an ugly person. I wonder if that market would find equilibrium. Edit: I guess the "purely a thought experiment" disclaimer got dismissed by everybody looking for a little outrage today. This is not a business…

Paying people would just incentivize them to message people that they have no interest in dating anyways.

Yeah probably. I'm wondering if there isn't a way to incentivize actually taking the time to have a conversation with someone you're not immediately attracted to. Maybe like a conversation-length gate or rewards based on message recipient ratings of the message you send?

Alternatively something like a monthly allowance of credit and then an auction style messaging system would be interesting.

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Post by Nav_Panel »

vbtemp wrote: post #34

I had an idea for a dating app a while back, in which the basic idea is that you pay the service to message someone (above a free weekly limit of say 1 msg). The pricing would be reactive - as popular attractive people get more messages, the more it would cost to message them, growing exponentially in order to limit incoming messages to approx a few a day. Unpopular people who got few messages would have a price that…

This is what Luna was doing (https://www.meetluna.com/) if I recall correctly, with the added bonus that it would also pay out when you read and reply to messages. So, that would incentivize attractive people to actually use the app. In theory. They seem to have failed-to-launch, unfortunately (fortunately?).

Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by [deleted] »

rkachowski wrote: post #120
erikpukinskis wrote: post #64

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Can you say more about what’s not working? I’ve been with my girlfriend three years, just bought a car together. It’s going well! We met on OKcupid. I’m a happy customer, though I don’t think I’ve ever paid them anything.

OKCupid has really been pushed to adopt the tinder based swipe approach in the past 2 years or so. They've also had a few big PR screw ups with forcing users to present their real names and really shifting the feature set to be more like Tinder now. It's really not the same as okcupid from 4 years ago

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Re: Greensboro Man Creates Dating App Where He's the Only Guy Allowed

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Post by rich_ard »

malux85 wrote: post #156
AgloeDreams wrote: post #68

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"My idea of a dating app: Literally enforces class based social ranking " It really doesn't take much to realize that this pricing scheme would exclusively benefit the rich and white, right? Like for a successful, white, male, software engineer like myself I could afford to reach out to whomever I would like anytime I want, this would be heaven! But for someone in a worse social position they would be basically block…

Where did “white” come into it? I can see how such a system would benefit the rich, but would it benefit a rich white more than a rich black? No. Why are you bringing race into it?

Whites are favored on dating apps (e.g. https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=3244459) and the model proposed would make that division pretty explicit

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Post by vbtemp »

adamlett wrote: post #189
hrktb wrote: post #127

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On the other side it must be weird to think that the people reaching to you have gone through an auctioning system and were the ones willing to pay the most. It would be all the weirder for first contact messages for instance.

Yes, I think this is by far the biggest problem here. I’m sure there are some women who would enjoy knowing that only those willing to pay the most, would be able to court them. But I would wager that most women would feel differently. Presumably a dating service finds potential mates who are good personality match, not just who are more willing or able to pay.

I don't think so.

The person would not know how much the sender "paid" for the "postage" for that message. From ANYONE's point of view, they are not receiving more than N messages per day, as N+1 would become exponentially, prohibitively more expensive.

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Post by outside1234 »

paride5745 wrote: post #71
erikpukinskis wrote: post #64

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Can you say more about what’s not working? I’ve been with my girlfriend three years, just bought a car together. It’s going well! We met on OKcupid. I’m a happy customer, though I don’t think I’ve ever paid them anything.

I matched with my wife on OKcupid, for me it worked well.

Me too. This was 5 years ago, so perhaps it has moved on per the other comments, but it definitely was the best of the lot when I was dating.

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Post by AnIdiotOnTheNet »

ssully wrote: post #173
peruvian wrote: post #146

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> What I'm saying is a might as well have dated random people for a year, it would have been the same result. The dating sites sell you on 'matching.' Dating apps sell you on showing you more people you otherwise would never meet. The chemistry and "good match" are left to the two people to figure out via chatting and a date.

I think this is the right attitude (and correct description), but not everyone understands this. I have a friend who finally started using dating apps after I've pressured him for years. From my view, he is a decent guy who is reasonably good looking, but had no luck getting dates the "old fashioned way". He hasn't had any serious relationships success (i.e. anything greater then 6 months), but he is actually getting…

> I have a friend who finally started using dating apps after I've pressured him for years.

Dear God why would you do this to someone?

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Post by gonehome »

vbtemp wrote: post #34

I had an idea for a dating app a while back, in which the basic idea is that you pay the service to message someone (above a free weekly limit of say 1 msg). The pricing would be reactive - as popular attractive people get more messages, the more it would cost to message them, growing exponentially in order to limit incoming messages to approx a few a day. Unpopular people who got few messages would have a price that…

I think the Tinder mutual swipe before message requirement solves this - women’s messages are limited by who they swipe right on (presumably restricting messages to people they’re interested in).

I suppose this leaves out the potential for unswiped men to differentiate themselves with an interesting initial message, but I suspect the success rate for that is pretty low.

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Post by AnIdiotOnTheNet »

nradov wrote: post #83
jressey wrote: post #70

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Survivorship Bias: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Survivorship_bias I met my wife online after a year of fruitless first dates. Maybe I'm just unappealing or something but it was truly a miserable part of my life. Edit: I'm gonna add in here that most people don't have the stick-to-itiveness that most readers of this site do.

Why was it miserable?

My personal experience is that dating itself just a miserable, tedious affair. Online dating at best doesn't make it any better.
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