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Re: Becoming the person who does the thing

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Post by noduerme » Sat, Sep 13, 2025, 11:17 PM UTC

viridian wrote: post #149

noduerme wrote: post #123

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An unkind answer is these are the sort of navel-gazing observations had by most teenagers, and people in tech are just late bloomers. But an even less kind answer would be that self-help is big business, and to run the scam you have to build an audience.

You should choose to practice kindness and charity if you can at all help it. Accusing a whole class of people of arrested development is incredibly derogatory. There are healthier ways to frame criticism.

Yeah, I guess it's not really fair to single out the tech worker class. Pretty much everyone in America under the age of 35 now suffers from some form of arrested development.

Re: Becoming the person who does the thing

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Post by carlosjobim » Sun, Sep 14, 2025, 12:57 PM UTC

the_af wrote: post #169

carlosjobim wrote: post #160

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What kind of knowledge can you get from old age that you cannot get from experience?

Didn't I address this in my first paragraph? How can you get enough experience without living long enough to accrue said experience? How can your perspective on things change if not enough time passed for perspective changes? To get back to your initial claim: > Experience and maturity is not very dependent on age. This is what I disagree with. Experience and maturity are very dependent on age. While some people have…

What you're arguing is that they are correlated with age, not dependent. If they are dependent on age, then I have to ask what kind of knowledge you can get from old age which you cannot get from experience?

Re: Becoming the person who does the thing

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Post by egeres » Sun, Sep 14, 2025, 1:41 PM UTC

This article and james clear go along the idea that: behavioral change is preceded by an identity one

Personally I disagree. as I see it, the harder "something" is to achieve, the less true that statement is. For example, identifying with a particular political ideology requires less material effort to align your behavior than identifying as a genius or olympic athlete

Re: Becoming the person who does the thing

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Post by the_af » Sun, Sep 14, 2025, 5:36 PM UTC

carlosjobim wrote: post #182

the_af wrote: post #169

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Didn't I address this in my first paragraph? How can you get enough experience without living long enough to accrue said experience? How can your perspective on things change if not enough time passed for perspective changes? To get back to your initial claim: > Experience and maturity is not very dependent on age. This is what I disagree with. Experience and maturity are very dependent on age. While some people have…

What you're arguing is that they are correlated with age, not dependent. If they are dependent on age, then I have to ask what kind of knowledge you can get from old age which you cannot get from experience?

Literally my first comment that you replied to started with "experience is correlated with age".

I don't know what else to tell you, other than "read what I wrote".

Your last question has already been answered (by both myself and others). I won't repeat myself.