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The man who spent forty-two years at the Beverly Hills Hotel pool (1993)

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Re: The man who spent forty-two years at the Beverly Hills Hotel pool (1993)

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Post by bowsamic »

zdragnar wrote: post #114
ForTheKidz wrote: post #102

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I have no doubt this is a widespread behavior, but I do have doubts as to whether or not this benefits children. Children seem to benefit primarily from watching relationships that genuinely make both parents happy. There's very little evidence to support that faking it yields results of children reacting as if you weren't faking it. You might as well divorce.

My friend in high school suffered from depression in part because he was well aware of that fact that his parents were only staying together until he graduated. Despite any attempt to put a rational face on it, he believed his existence was the source of his parents' unhappiness. Another friend of mine is doing this with his wife right now. He's utterly miserable, but the racial stereotype of the missing black father…

I think that staying together for the kids is essential for the very early age, but if someone goes it must be the dad. My mum left when I was 1 and a half and that is obviously horrifically painful

At a certain age though the parents should split if it isn't working. It's definitely far easier to deal with your dad or mum leaving if you're 10 years old than if you're 1 year old

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Post by bowsamic »

rightbyte wrote: post #180
smogcutter wrote: post #121

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Most people with happy loving homes don’t get divorced.

I know people with kids that have divorced for the most stupid reasons. In many cases I feel the problem could have fundamentally been solved by being better at dividing household work such that someone can rest one or two days and then switch. For many divorce seems to be a way to divide labour, which they could have done without one.

It is undeniable that it seems that way for us as outside observers at least. It seems more like both are stubborn and would rather burn everything than take responsibility. It would have to be pretty bad on the inside for that external appearance of the divorce to be justified at all

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Post by rightbyte »

permo-w wrote: post #124
B1FF_PSUVM wrote: post #87

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Hope springs eternal

the current dietary advice in my local segment of society goes pretty much like this: try not to eat too many processed foods, keep it balanced, and fats aren't actually bad for you. that all sounds fairly reasonable to me

It is strange. As exposure to strange diet advice have gone up via internet exposure, Youtube, Instagram, blogs etc, the amount of people actually following strange diets seems to have gone down.

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Post by osrec »

vladms wrote: post #175
kelnos wrote: post #161

> ordered breakfast: scrambled eggs back in the days when people ate eggs, and, more recently, banana and granola with skim milk. It's funny how much life cycles. I do kinda remember a phase where people were eating a "healthier" breakfast of some kind of fruit, and when granola became popular, and when milk fat was considered the worst thing you could do to your body. But now eggs are fine, again. Great, even.

I always find fun these "generalizations". Like: "Eggs are fine". If you are a 50kg person that eats 20 eggs for breakfast each day I doubt it would be fine. We would need something like LD50, or even better a range over a period (eggs are mostly fine if you eat between 2 and 5 per week)

I heard 2 per day, especially if on a meat free diet.

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Post by elif »

irrational wrote: post #91

> Then Irving would either walk back home to his wife and two children What the... he'd leave his wife at home with the kids while he hung out all day at the pool with "magnificent-looking young women, full of theatrical drive" and eat all his meals at the hotel?

This was incredibly the norm in the 90's. A 'good dad' back then spent an hour a day with his kid after work.

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Post by rightbyte »

lynx97 wrote: post #52
JohnMakin wrote: post #48

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> Looking back at what we've been told would kill us, the older you get, the less you actually trust in the latest "findings". Seems like a bit of confirmation bias here - tons of things that people were told would kill them, did in fact end up killing them. Science is wrong sometimes, of course, and science journalism even more often.

Well, eggs just triggered me. I am from the "I will stop eating eggs when there are no chickens anymore" team... And sure, you're definitely right. Learning about and eliminating aspestos, for instance, was probably one of the bigger well known positive counter-example from the previous century. However, I can't think of many great counter-examples when it comes to dietary advice and the science journalism (thanks fo…

Drinking too much soda with sugar?

Now the acidity in artificially sweetened soda makes peoples' teeth bad. My dentist mother is furious about that people believe that it is only the sugar in the soda that is bad for the teeth.

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Post by DanielHB »

rightbyte wrote: post #178
DanielHB wrote: post #170

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Not in the US, but I live in a CoL place in Europe and when I bought my first apartment I was baffled by the amount of money I was saving every month. My previous rent was about the same as my mortgage, but 40% of my mortgage was going down to reduce the principal. And I only had 15% downpayment. Bought the apartment in 2018, sold in 2024 (close to the bottom of the local-market slump). Still profited ~10% (before fe…

Ye it is strange. I mean to some extent the lesser service you get explains it. But shady land lords does not provide the required services and still charge a premium for rent. To some extent the apartment board might be to optimistic on future maintenance costs too.

No, it is just the messed up rental market in Stockholm. Government and HOA controls don't let people be landlords for more than 2 years of a time and require you to ask permission from the HOA and to have a reason.

The actual apartment I was renting was pretty well kept though, proper cleaning, air ventilation inspections, very good laundry room, fully renovated less than 10 years before I moved in. The apartment I bought however was similar conditions.

It is possible to get a first-hand rental contract but it takes years upon years and you can never get something in the location you want.

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Post by xandrius »

vladms wrote: post #175
kelnos wrote: post #161

> ordered breakfast: scrambled eggs back in the days when people ate eggs, and, more recently, banana and granola with skim milk. It's funny how much life cycles. I do kinda remember a phase where people were eating a "healthier" breakfast of some kind of fruit, and when granola became popular, and when milk fat was considered the worst thing you could do to your body. But now eggs are fine, again. Great, even.

I always find fun these "generalizations". Like: "Eggs are fine". If you are a 50kg person that eats 20 eggs for breakfast each day I doubt it would be fine. We would need something like LD50, or even better a range over a period (eggs are mostly fine if you eat between 2 and 5 per week)

What's interesting some of the reasons why 20 eggs are too much for someone weighing 50kg:

- Too much Vitamin A

- Too much protein (yes, there is such a thing)

- 1450kcal from eggs alone (might be ok but other nutrients are needed)

Even before touching the fats.

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Post by rightbyte »

hn_throwaway_99 wrote: post #106
bena wrote: post #18

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Eggs had a rough go of it in the 90s. There were studies where it seemed like even looking at an egg would cause your cholesterol to sky rocket and kill you.

> There were studies where it seemed like even looking at an egg would cause your cholesterol to sky rocket and kill you. Except there really weren't studies, and this is why the nutrition "science" was so bad back then. A sibling comment mentioned a study in rabbits and points out the obvious problems with making conclusions based on a herbivore, but the general belief was that since high blood cholesterol was linke…

> or more charitably there were "reasonable" hypotheses that were presented as government-sponsored "facts" that turned out to be false when they were actually tested.

The Covid debactle could be a more recent experience. Guesses was reported as facts. Then the flipfloping made peoples heads hurt and the consensus on what to do ended in a mess and a heated political point.

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