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Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by LesZedCB »

anonporridge wrote: post #62
bananabiscuit wrote: post #34

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Unfortunately, it is a mistake to think that just because you are only presented with high quality facts (statements that are very likely to be true), that you are getting an objective view of the story. You would be surprised how unrepresentative a story can be made purely through omission or selective emphasis, and Wikipedia is very guilty especially of the latter. The talk pages are usually very revealing of what…

This is something a lot of people don't understand. It is impossible to have an objective and bias-free source of information, simply because the amount of information that exists is unimaginably enormous. It's impossible for any single human mind to absorb everything that's happening, so we have to rely on services whose job is filtering that information into a small set of important bits. By selectively choosing wh…

Manufacturing Consent is a must-read

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manufacturing_Consent

Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by cja »

toyg wrote: post #56
hvs wrote: post #41

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As I said, I may have ADHD as I have a lot of the classic symptoms, but I have a daughter with diagnosed ADHD and I do not have nearly as significant symptoms as she does. All I know is cutting caffeine improved my general concentration and significantly decreased my anxiety as a bonus.

As a person completely unqualified to diagnose anything but with similar problems, I suspect the real root of your issue might just be the anxiety. If you could address the roots of that, caffeine would probably become irrelevant.

Untreated ADHD is a common cause of anxiety

Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by haswell »

lampshades wrote: post #173
haswell wrote: post #144

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Nothing about their advice is specific to the role of parenting itself, but more about perspective on life choices in general. If they were telling you how to be a parent, sure, but there's nothing wrong with trying to learn from each other's experiences. Not having kids may afford some advantages in some circumstances, but in my experience, the decision is often made for reasons that most people don't see, and not j…

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If you continued reading, you'd see the context behind why I made that decision. At this point, you are not making any attempt at a good faith conversation here, and that's unfortunate.

But since I'm curious, is it the age that made you stop listening?

Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by andrewljohnson »

NRv9tR wrote: post #176
andrewljohnson wrote: post #166

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The issue for me is, for example, my wife drops my kid off for a camp and then the camp calls me in an emergency. So I can’t just only take notifications from known callers.

You can do this. I do. Known numbers only and whitelist school, doctor, etc. If you really wanted to go further you could have a second number via google voice you only give to those places. Maybe even tie notifications on that to your calendar where you put your kids events.

I just can’t… it might be some counselor’s random cell phone calling me. Plus the kids go to many camps per summer, and many activities during the year, so I’d be constantly updating my phone book even if not for the main issue.

Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by insightcheck »

lampshades wrote: post #179
yao420 wrote: post #157

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I’m really struggling with this right now. I’m turning 33 next month and really want children. I have endless memories of my dad and grandfathers teaching me amazing lessons and being best/strongest men I have ever been around. I want to fulfill that role that for someone! We didn’t have much money but camping or diy building is something fondly reminisce on and made me who I am. My partner is 25 and is not decided o…

You should find a new partner.

Not necessarily. There is almost always room to have a discussion and to see if there can be compromise acceptable to both sides first.

In this case, it may be acceptable to have kids at a later age; in addition, there could be other related concerns not mentioned in the comment (a lot of information is lost when writing about something online), which could make having kids acceptable.

Then if it's truly a red line issue (one partner absolutely does not want to have kids, while the other does), both people will know that they at least tried very hard to work it out, and reached an understanding that there could be long-term unhappiness or resentment if the relationship persisted. Then there can be few to no regrets with moving on, which is difficult after being in a relationship for a long period of time.

Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by mtnygard »

Zanneth wrote: post #154

Aaron Swartz wrote a blog post about the news[1] and just how terrible it is for the brain. Reading his post had a major impact on me—since then I have always thought differently about the time I spend online. It’s interesting how people, including myself, try to justify various addictions. How am I supposed to stay informed about important topics without the news? How do I know how to help people in need without kno…

I hadn’t seen that post before. This paragraph hit me as a tragic irony:

‘This seems to be true, but the curious thing is that I’m never involved. The government commits a crime, the New York Times prints it on the front page, the people on the cable chat shows foam at the mouth about it, the government apologizes and commits the crime more subtly. It’s a valuable system — I certainly support the government being more subtle about committing crimes (well, for the sake of argument, at least) — but you notice how it never involves me?’

Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by lampshades »

haswell wrote: post #183
lampshades wrote: post #173

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If you continued reading, you'd see the context behind why I made that decision. At this point, you are not making any attempt at a good faith conversation here, and that's unfortunate. But since I'm curious, is it the age that made you stop listening?

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Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by erdewit »

lloydatkinson wrote: post #83
woweoe wrote: post #61

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Wikipedia is incredibly biased in terms of what news it cherry picks though. Just read through the debates of what gets proposed for inclusion, and then think about the stuff that's outright deleted.

Do you have some examples?

For example, the entire entry for "mass formation" was deleted. The Dutch version still exists:

https://nl.wikipedia.org/wiki/Massavorming

Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by haswell »

lampshades wrote: post #187
haswell wrote: post #183

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If you continued reading, you'd see the context behind why I made that decision. At this point, you are not making any attempt at a good faith conversation here, and that's unfortunate. But since I'm curious, is it the age that made you stop listening?

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I see. It's really unclear why you're engaging in such a hostile way throughout this thread, but it's really not in the intended spirit of discussion here.

Apparently you did continue reading, but in case it wasn't clear, it was an abusive environment, and sharing my personal decision not to be a parent again is just my attempt to share one perspective on what it means to have or not have kids when working through one's career.

Based on what you've written elsewhere in this thread, I hope you find some peace.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

Re: How I regained concentration and focus

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Post by watwut »

NRv9tR wrote: post #176
andrewljohnson wrote: post #166

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The issue for me is, for example, my wife drops my kid off for a camp and then the camp calls me in an emergency. So I can’t just only take notifications from known callers.

You can do this. I do. Known numbers only and whitelist school, doctor, etc. If you really wanted to go further you could have a second number via google voice you only give to those places. Maybe even tie notifications on that to your calendar where you put your kids events.

The teacher from school or preschool will call from basically random phone. Possibly own phone. Or whatever office she is in phone. Camp counselor always calls from own phone which is fairly often different one then where you are supposed to call.

Neither of these calls often. Maybe once a year you get call like that. But when they call, you really want to pick up.

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