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Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas
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Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas
#182I vividly remember coding, moderating IRC channels and playing StarCraft while being alone on a Christmas night, lobbies were full of joy and wishes, games were fun, and I felt way less lonely than while spending time with people I didn’t really connect with. Christmas is seen as a moment to be spent with people, but IMO this day is only what you make of it. It is not bad to want to be totally alone, or connected wit…
This Metaverse / NFT thing is depressing, I wouldn't recommend this. If you are alone, better take the "celebrations" as an opportunity to discover people that are a little bit of your usual circle by inviting them for a dinner or movie. The COVID-19 makes more people lonely, and actually, it's a positive thing for people who are usually alone because it makes it easier for them to live with the social stigma of bein…
This whole "people on the internet aren't real people" thing is SO 20th century.
Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas
#183Thank you for this gesture. I lost almost everything. Job, 7-year relationship, my mental health. Feeling that I'm not only alone but inadequate to have a life like anybody else. I'm still alive, so there's that.
Same here but it's a 5 year relationship. Similar feelings... With a persistent, almost frustrating sense of hope for the future that seems more deeply rooted inside of me than any actual plan to build from zero again.
You're not alone in that experience. Which isn't information that has helped me at all. Except that I at least believe that others have been here and scrambled blindly and made it somehow too, so why not us?
Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas
#184Nobody should feel alone at Christmas. If anyone needs someone to talk to, about anything at all, feel free to contact me. Details in my profile.
Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas
#185My thoughts are with you and everyone else.
I love you all.
The H in hackernews can sometimes also mean, Human , Human News.
Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas
#186My mum died in January and my Dad died a couple of weeks ago. We didn’t do much for Christmas as a family but I keep thinking of the interesting things to tell my Dad about that he’s not around to tell. He’d almost certainly be watching the James Webb Telescope launch
So sorry to hear about your losses. Sending you a virtual hug through cyberspace.
Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas
#187Thank you for this gesture. I lost almost everything. Job, 7-year relationship, my mental health. Feeling that I'm not only alone but inadequate to have a life like anybody else. I'm still alive, so there's that.
I think if you're posting this to HN, you want to talk to someone about all of this. I happen to like hearing about your life, so please feel free to DM me any time. https://twitter.com/theshawwn Happy to just listen. No advice.
+1 — This wonderful man helped me and listened via twitter DMs when I was in a rut.
Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas
#188Thank you for this gesture. I lost almost everything. Job, 7-year relationship, my mental health. Feeling that I'm not only alone but inadequate to have a life like anybody else. I'm still alive, so there's that.
I realise you didn’t post this looking for advice (and I apologise if this is unwelcome), but if I can relate one small thing from my own personal mental health nadir:
Walk. Outdoors. In the greenest place you can find.
No, it won’t change anything that you’ve been through, but it really will help you to quiet everything for a small chunk of time to let your mind get a rest from it.
Please don’t ever think you’re inadequate. No-one, not even you, as any idea what might be waiting in your future :-)
Re: Tell HN: You are not alone this Christmas
#189Thank you for this gesture. I lost almost everything. Job, 7-year relationship, my mental health. Feeling that I'm not only alone but inadequate to have a life like anybody else. I'm still alive, so there's that.
Have you familiarized yourself with Complex-PTSD?
You’re just as worthy of life on this earth as anything else. Hang in there!
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If you're doing it to get your mind off things, it can be a wonderful distraction. One of the best in life, as far as I'm concerned. I was mostly math illiterate too. Geometry was my strong suit, not manipulating symbols. Still want to learn PDEs someday just for fun, mostly because I have no idea how to model anything as a PDE. But I would never try to learn PDEs to make money, because it would put me under a lot of…
It's just something that I enjoy and I can finally try to be good at and who knows, get a job doing it. I already use Emacs for everything since 2003, so...
What field are you in that you use Emacs?
I'm always curious what non-IT folks that use some rather IT-specific tools do (not that Emacs is just for coding like gcc, but it's pretty rare to see it jump over the wall).