1. Dont listen blindly to people to tell you to do things or not
Tips for a Better Life
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#18395. Some types of sophistication won’t make you enjoy the object more, they’ll make you enjoy it less. For example, wine snobs don’t enjoy wine twice as much as you, they’re more keenly aware of how most wine isn’t good enough. Avoid sophistication that diminishes your enjoyment. I agree with the conclusion of this one, though I think it oversimplifies the problem. Cultivating taste in something (be it food or drink,…
I think I’ve been on both sides of this —
On one side, I just don’t like how some cheap beers taste... I’d rather have coffee or juice.
On the other hand, I’ve tried a lot of wines with friends... and I think there’s a certain amount of “acquired bad taste” to be part of the club. My experience has been taste sort of tops out at mid-high, and after that it’s a lot of paying for the story or as a Veblen good/investment.
Which is also true of beers.
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#184Earlier quoted context omitted.
You can easily implicate yourself at the scene of the crime by speaking to an officer, but in the U.S. you have the "right to remain silent". The article is generally referring to cases where you are guilty of something or could be guilty of something.
I don't think so, there is no context of that in the article. This perpetuates the mantra that cops are an evil force out to get you. In my country, police are quite respected, and the ability to go over to a police officer and ask for help means that a more trusting relationship is built. How can the US ever hope to achieve police reform with this kind of antagonistic attitude! Maybe the line instead should be, if y…
Nuance is sort of counterproductive here because most people don't recognize how many things could trigger an interrogation. Any little personality quirk, or being in the wrong place at the wrong time, and the officer is suddenly taking note of every word you say.
Watch the video about this and how the law professor says that your casual honest comment to a cop might be taken to be a lie based on nothing. Not just wrong, or potentially incriminating, but a lie, and because of that they can and will start to try to fit the evidence to you.
> This perpetuates the mantra that cops are an evil force out to get you.
That's not a requirement for this rule to be useful, but I'll act carefully to protect myself rather than to test that theory in either case.
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#185> After a breakup, cease all contact as soon as practical. The potential for drama is endless, and the potential for a good friendship is negligible. Strange. It's a bit of a red flag if someone is in complete radio silence with all their exes, frankly. Obviously, you aren't going to enjoy hanging out next week, but I'm surprised you dated enough that there's a "breakup" if you don't enjoy each other enough to have s…
this is a bit of conventional wisdom that I have always questioned. the default expectation that you would spend a few years with someone and then cut them out of your life entirely if things don't work out strikes me as kind of tragic. that person was likely one of your best friends.
there are exceptions of course. if the relationship ended because of very different levels of interest, it might take some time before a healthy friendship is possible. if the relationship became codependent or ended due to some sort of betrayal, it's probably best to make a clean break.
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#186Earlier quoted context omitted.
#82 is a Pinegrove lyric, great song.
Seeing this made me wonder if the author pulled it from the song _or_ if the song/author pulled it from somewhere else. A quick search seems to indicate it's a Pinegrove original, which makes me happy. One of my favorite bands!
The number is in fact a link to the PineGrove video.
Many of the numbers are green ... try clicking them!
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#187> After a breakup, cease all contact as soon as practical. The potential for drama is endless, and the potential for a good friendship is negligible. Strange. It's a bit of a red flag if someone is in complete radio silence with all their exes, frankly. Obviously, you aren't going to enjoy hanging out next week, but I'm surprised you dated enough that there's a "breakup" if you don't enjoy each other enough to have s…
I don't bear ill will towards my exes and would be totally willing to grab a coffee with any of them.
That said: it has always been my experience that cutting off contact is best for me emotionally regardless of if I broke up with them or vice versa.
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#188> 11. Cooking pollutes the air. Opening windows for a few minutes after cooking can dramatically improve air quality.
After bad bush fires where I live I invested in both a CO2 monitor and a particle air quality monitor (Dylos DC1100 Pro Air Quality Monitor). It shocked me just how much cooking (and other factors I can't quite determine yet) affected the air quality. Think 10 times more particles due to cooking, even with the fan on and windows open.
Another possible source of indoor air pollution are carpets and other manufactured things, interestingly.
CO2 was bad too, but opening my window has a greater impact on that. But it is shocking to see levels of ~800-900ppm inside with windows closed.
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#189The part about always dying... I have struggled with this concept since I was a child. If anyone has any words of advice on dealing with that that aren’t “just accept it” or religious in nature, that would be helpful.
Try to stay busier so you think more about what you want to accomplish and not about what you haven’t.
I was pretty suicidal by normal standards because of how much I would think about my death and everyone’s death. I moved countries and started working 15hs a day and didn’t have time to spend thinking about that anymore. I got fixed
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#190> 13. When googling a recipe, precede it with ‘best’.
Precede it with 'seriouseats'. Kenji is the ultimate hacker in the cooking world.