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Sometimes, it’s just time to go home

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Re: Sometimes, it’s just time to go home

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I wish I had the balls to write this post. Mine would certainly not be so honest and raw. It's also sad that it comes to this. I get home for dinner but work till midnight. I'm in town for birthdays but leave at 6am the next morning. I still talk to my very best friends but no one else. I hope to heaven that the startup never ruins my marriage but it's not impossible to see it could happen. Maybe these "compromises"…

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Re: Sometimes, it’s just time to go home

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Life is now. If you‘re doing something for money so that you can live your life the way you want later, that doesn‘t work because it takes time to learn to live your life the way you want. Typically it takes a lifetime to do that, so you must start early: you must start now if you wish to make it. Otherwise you‘ll end up with a lot of cash and no idea of what kind of life makes you fulfilled. If you‘re doing somethin…

This is the sort of sentimentality that has no place in modern capitalism. Why would you need to cook dinner or water a garden (who even has a garden) or even have children in the first place? People have been doing that for thousands of years. If you want to scratch dirt you can move to Kansas and be a dirt farmer. Plenty of time with your kids with that career track. If you're building a company, you have almost no…

I think life is actually more about being happy. If that dirt scratcher is happier than the person killing themselves to make some random startup a success, then I think the dirt scratcher has won. You see, when you die you don't "know that you were able to..." You don't know anything, because you are dead. All you have is how you feel right now, because life could end at any moment and you won't know it at all, you'll just be dead and gone and the only thing that will have mattered to you is how you felt while you were alive.

Re: Sometimes, it’s just time to go home

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They didn't sleep under their desk, but they may well have spend 80% of their nights in hotels, which is worse (imho).

Depends on the company, and whether the execs were staying (and golfing) at a five-star...

Absolutely, and also on the definition of executive. A lot level VP -- one of potentially thousands in the org -- at a mega corp is not living remotely the same life as a corporate officer.

Re: Sometimes, it’s just time to go home

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Hey, I applaud you for your mindset for its purity and clarity. I think it's a bit shortsighted myself, but I've found the world a more complex place than I expected when I was younger (I'm in my 30s), and I think it's important to realize that everyone has different priorities. I agree with the parent of this comment that it takes a life to learn how to live. If you want to live the life of a founder, live that life…

> I've found the world a more complex place than I expected when I was younger (I'm in my 30s), Amen, I'm 34 and for the first time in my life when exposed to unexpected complexity from life I don't retreat back into a set of circumstances that allow me to control the situation (i.e. throw myself into work and minimise all distractions). I had a fairly horrible (if not unusual) upbringing so I fear messy complex life…

I agree entirely! I look back at my 20s--I had a ton of fun and a lot of experiences, and (cliche alert) "I wouldn't trade it for the world", but man was I dumb!

Re: Sometimes, it’s just time to go home

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When I was young I met a Spanish tennis player called Rafael Nadal when he was a kid. He was managed and coached by his uncle who had experience in being a professional football player. What shocked me is that he did not sacrifice Rafael's life like most of other kids that could be good(examples like Michael Jackson or in tennis the Wiilians' sisters or Arantxa Sanchez Vicario in Spain). At the time everybody believe…

Wonderful.

Is that the simple answer?

Delegate, use other people, leverage resources.. and you too can have plenty of cash and time?

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