Actually, the more I think about it, the more I realize the problem is that Git is
too opinionated about a bad idea: attempting to make a DAG feel like a linked list in order to make it "easier" to use from the CLI because CLIs make it way too hard to visualize DAGs (don't come at me with your CLI DAG viz. Even the best ones are strictly inferior to the simplest GUI DAG viz).
There are really only two things I care about: the state of the files on disk and the state of the index. And I really only care about where I am and where I want to go, everything else in the middle is noise.
To me, the staging area isn't "real", it's just a tool for working with the other two. Git doesn't need to pitch a hissy fit about editing history. Allowing easy edits of history would obviate the need for the staging area. But because they called it "history", now we have emotional responses to the concept of editing it, like we're somehow committing political revisionism.
But the existence of the staging area and the attempt at making the DAG look linear makes reseting ridiculous. Every time I need to do some kind of reset that isn't --hard, I have to read my Git GUI's descriptions of what each type does, and yet somehow it still doesn't have the combination I actually want half the time. All these named reset types could just be two separate reset commands, both pointing to a commit, one resetting the files on disk, one resetting the index. Sometimes I end up having to do a two step reset of a combination of hard forward then soft backwards to get what I want.
Similarly, all the different merge strategies are dumb. None of them ever do the right thing. I'm always getting stupid shit like new blocks that insert a new ending curly brace after the previous block, followed by the new block body, then the original ending curly brace from the old previous block. Half the time I just use the reset hard/soft to then manually review changes to enact a manual merge rather than trust merge to do anything reasonable.
Sacred history makes it way too hard to organize commits in any logical way. I want my VCS to be a super-powered UNDO. I don't need it to be an audit log of who did what and when (auditability only matters for releases so why do I have to be saddled with it minute by minute?). I basically want to be able to edit two or more commits in a sequence as easily as I currently can edit the staging area, so I can easily guarantee ordering of changes to partially related modules that I'm working on together. C depends on B depends on A. I want to be able to work on all three at the same time, but make sure all changes to A come first, then B, then C, and I want to be able to do this incrementally over the course of the day, rather than all at once when everything is perfect.
But this fetish of not changing history even though we can totally change history biases all other Git tooling to attempt to appear like it operates in linear history. Like how there's the HEAD pointer that can be offset; uuuh, what happens if that offset reaches a fork (I've never tried, the poor DAG experience of the CLI has kept me in GUIs which makes the HEAD pointer completely unnecessary). Or how log is basically unreadable.
Don't even get me started on submodules vs subtrees. I have to get to work.